Does this man like me or is he being nice??

[happy_chrissy]

I met a guy last year thru a social function where he wanted my number, which I gave to him. Last year, he texted me to hang out with him and his friends since my friends and I were going to be in the hamptons for the holiday. He brought his friends over to the house that my friends and I were staying out and we had never hung out like this before. We had a great weekend. After the weekend finished, I had texted him that we should do this again and he replied absoultely. Well, I didn’t hear from him and this was last year. I figured, what ever.

Now, I just saw him again this August where he didn’t bring up why he did not call and of course, I didn’t either. However, he did not leave me alone at the function that we were at, he was by my side the whole time talking to me, wanting to know what was going on with me, and that he would not move back to the island, unless he was getting engaged(where did that come from?? i have no clue.weird..) Anyways, till this day, he does not initiate text, he only responds back to me every time I text him and he texts me back every single time very quickly; within 2 minutes..I do not get him? Maybe he is shy, I do not know? Why bother texting me back if you are not interested and why not just ignore my text or just tell me he is not interested???

[April Masini]

Your questions are easy! 😀

I. Does he like you? YES!
2. Is he being nice? YES!
3. He returns your texts because he likes you and he is polite.

Now, let me help you ask the question you didn’t and should have: Why doesn’t he ask me out on a date? 😮 Because, really, that’s what you want to know, after all — not if he likes you (you already know he does!) or if he’s being nice (you already know he is!).

The answer is that for whatever reason, he’s not interested in dating you. Rather than spend any more energy wondering why, accept that he isn’t. Stop texting him first and initiating contact — you’re not giving him the opportunity to chase after you (probably because you know he won’t). The great thing about true feminine wiles and the art of seduction is that you can give a man something to chase after, and know that if he does, he’s interested. If he doesn’t, he’s not.

I hope that helps clear up your questions. And if not…. I’m here!

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[happy_chrissy]

I’m sorry April, I do not understand. If the guy is interested in me and likes me, likes being around me, then why isn’t he interested in dating me? I don’t get it?

[April Masini]

There could be a lot of reasons why he doesn’t want to date you — and they could have to do with you, or more likely, him. For instance, he could like you, but not enough to date you. He could already be dating someone else. He could not be interested in dating right now. He may think you’re the kind of woman who would want a relationship and maybe he’s just into hooking up right now, so he’s not asking you out. The list goes on….

Just because someone is nice and enjoys your company doesn’t mean you’re both compatible. That means you could be incompatible because of personality differences, or because you’re just in different places in your respective lives.

Does that help?

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