Dont know what to do!

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Im not quite sure if I am a victim of relationship abuse or of some other crime like a scam. I have filed a local police report for possible identity theft (which she seemed to know about pretty quickly) but hasn’t ran either. 
     I have been dating a woman I met early last summer. I am now aware that since the start of our relationship I have received multiple different fake facebooks from her claiming shes been in and out of protection from a battered womens group. I now know from creating a fake fb of my own that her and her brother have blocked me from their real fb accounts. and creating and deleting multiple fake accounts over time.
     My delema in walking away is that one I have deep feelings for her and two she is sapposidly pregnant with our children “twins” (…..still no confirmation as of yet…..). When I met her she was sapposidly in a contract marriage to her “foster” brother ie the man she lives with now but im beginning to wonder if this man is her husband and I am either on the side or being kept on the side till she really gets divorced? I am divorced and proudly showed her my paperwork after being separated from my ex for almost 2 years but when it comes to her doing the same something always comes up and it doesn’t happen (why I think shes still married). I have a done public database searches on her phone number and nothing comes up, as far as her address her name and real fb with her picture seem to be a topic she avoids by accusing me of “snooping”, the number comes up with no name like its a throw away phone, but she likes to use an app on the smart phones called “voxer” and only txts when I don’t have my wireless or mobile data on accusing me of avoiding/hiding from her. on the voxer app she is easily annoyed if my gps location is not turned on like shes always watching where I am. She also expects that I will not interact with a single female reguardless of the reason why. Oh and now she sapposidly has terminal cancer….
     This is just a brief rundown and could REALLY use some advice. My gut says run like hell but my mind is stuck on what to do! if she is for real why the lies and the hiding (doesn’t know yet that I have found her real fb) and if a scam why because being divorced and fresh out of the military and a full time student on unemployment I have nohing worth taking of monitary value. I have also gotten to the point that I got my concealed weapons license to carry concealed and do so on a daily basis…… is this a warning sign in it itself? Or am I just paranoid……

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Thank you for you time!

[April Masini]

The first thing you need to do is to be clear on what’s happening, so maybe I can help you. Based on what you’ve written, it sounds like you’ve been dating a married woman since last summer — for about 9 months now. You’re not sure if she’s pregnant, and she may have terminal cancer. I’m not sure why you filed an identity theft report with the police, since it doesn’t sound like your identity was stolen or compromised at all. 😕 Getting the police involved in a romantic relationship isn’t really appropriate. 😳

Next, decide what you want in a relationship, and figure out how to get it. If you want a long-term, committed relationship with someone, you need to date people who are available and have similar goals. When you realized she was married, that was the moment to accept that she can’t be in a long-term, committed relationship with you in the same way someone who was single could be. So, instead of getting upset that she’s married, just move on. Second, it’s never a good idea to have unprotected sex if you don’t want children, so if she is pregnant, hopefully, she’ll let you know, and you’ll have a chance to co-parent or at the least, father your kids. If she doesn’t let you know, then hopefully, you’ll be more careful with protection next time around, so you don’t have to wonder, which I’m sure is stressful for you. 🙁

I’m not sure why you got a license to carry a concealed weapon — or how it pertains to this relationship. You haven’t mentioned any reason that you would feel endangered, so I’m not really certain as to why you mentioned it or got a license to carry one, concealed. 😕

Bottom line — you have to decide what you want and then go for it. This woman doesn’t sound like she’s interested or available for a normal relationship, and you need to check yourself for drama — guns, police reports and public data searches — these are not parts of normal, healthy, romantic relationships. There’s something else going on here, with you, that you should consider. 😉

I hope that helps. 😉

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