Ex Girlfriend

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    JDredd
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    So this is a bit of a unique situation. I am 35 years old, don’t really date much. She is a single mother with a 2 year old son. We dated and lived together for 8 months. She felt we were losing passion for each other and suggested moving out. She declared that she fell in love with me but I at the time did not share that same feeling. We break up and a couple weeks later was moved out. The initial hatdest thing was her child. I really bonded with him and would live to be his father. She declared that I am his favorite person. It’s only been 2 1/2 months and she has been dating a new guy for 2 months of it. The kicker is that I watch her son on weekends when she has to work all day at the clinic. I continue to watch him and am delighted that she lets us bond still. But now that this new guy is in the picture does this mean I’m completely out of the picture or what? I have developed very strong feelings for her ever since she left. Initially it didn’t bother me but each passing day it get’s tougher to not think of her. Does she have feelings for me? Should I tell her how I really feel?

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    New boyfriend is 3 years younger than her and in the air force.

    She works 10 hour days 2 times a week. Goes to night classes for a dental assistant degree, just started

    She moved in right away, not even a week after dating.

    I don’t show my emotions very easily

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    April Masini
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    I’m sure she has feelings for you, but they’re probably not romantic. The two of you dated, broke up, and you moved out. Now, she’s got a new boyfriend and you’re her son’s babysitter. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try and win her over and get her back. 😉 Rather than tell her how you feel, show her. Buy her flowers. Invite her to have coffee. If things seem to go well, then ask her on a date. Be careful not to badmouth the current boyfriend — it’s going to look like you’re bitter and it may jeopardize your relationship with her. Instead, bring your A game and promote yourself. And use the knowledge you have from your relationship of 8 months with her — you mentioned she fell out of love before breaking up and moving out. Figure out what your part in that rift was. Did things get boring? Did you take her for granted? Was there something that was missing or that you can bring to the table now, that will show her that her prior concerns are no longer relevant?

    Hope that helps!

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