Ex Girlfriend Call

[kirk1208]

Hello April,

Okay, so my ex girlfriend just turned 21 today, but last night she gave me a call at 1:25am completely trashed. We broke up about 4 months ago and it was distance and her wanting to be 21 that interfered. So, I just started getting on with my life and tried to zone her out completely, hasn’t worked that well. Anyways she started accusing me that I am now a player and that we would never work out again (keep in mind she broke up with me). So I was basically getting yelled at for a good 10 minutes. She then turns the whole thing around and starts telling me that she misses me and that she really wishes I was there to take care of her. She said that she didn’t want anyone else to take care of her. She then asked one question that really shocked the crap out of me. She asked, “When we get married are we going to be fine together?” It completely caught me off guard. She texted me early today apologizing about it all and asked me what she all said last night. I told her that I really don’t want to talk about it right now and to call me later on in the summer. I know some people say that drunk words are a sober persons’ thoughts, but then again it can totally be flip flopped and not be true at all. I still have feelings for her and don’t know what to do. Any advice?

Thank you for all the help in the past! I really appreciate it

Alex

[April Masini]

Sounds like she drunk dialed you and that she has unresolved feelings. If the reasons for the break up are good ones, then it’s probably a good idea for you to move on. But if the reasons she gave for the break up were just excuses for her conflicting feelings, then there may be room for a reconciliation. You can ask her out on a date again, and see if a conversation between the two of you opens the door to a deeper understanding of what her problems with the relationship were, that led to the break up, and if they are surmountable or not.

But if you do contact her, make the focus of the contact be that you’d like to take her out if she’s ready for that. Don’t make it be about the drunk dial. You can definitely talk about the drunk dial in the course of the date, but make the date be about seeing if you two have anything left between you that’s worth pursuing.

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