Ive been in a relationship for 2 years and my girlfriend has a 4 yr-old daughter with another woman. Her ex is in a bad relationship and are always yelling and arguing. My girlfriend’s ex and I get along just fine. Today the ex asked her if her, her niece and their daughter could move in with us until she can find an apt. She is basically broke and her credit is shot since she can not pay her bills. My girlfriend left the decision all in my hands and “said” she would support me in any decision I made. My decision was no (after thinking about it all day) because I feel that I would be very uncomfortable with the ex living with us and that our relationship will suffer. The ex has made no effort to get another job (she is currently a relator) to try to make extra money so that they could move out of her girlfriends house. I feel bad for the kids as well as her b/c it is a very bad relationship verbally, but I know that I would end up feeling uncomfortable and then resenting my girlfriend. Now my ex is upset with me because her answer was yes that they could move in b/c of her daughter and that I am being selfish. So much for her supporting me in my decision! And that b/c of my insecurities and selfishness, are going to ruin their friendship as well as mine and the ex’s relationship. Should I have said yes and put all my insecurites and selfishness aside for however long it took for her to find an apt? Should I have risked my own relationship so that the ex and the kids could get away from the situation? The ex has nowhere to go so finding someone else to live with is out of the question. So if she did move in with us, it’s not like we could just kick her out.
Please help!!!
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