Falling for a friend

[bouken_spirits]

well recently i’ve been hanging with a few people i know for awhile now and almost every week we always go somewhere to chill for abit.now just awhile i’ve started to have some feelings for one of them but i dont know if i should tell her or not.she already has somebody and i’m afraid if i tell her she would be shocked and dont know how the outcome will end up.what should i do?

[nightowl92]

if you ask me, you should tell her how you feel. i know that’s a cheesy response, but it’s honestly the way to go. i’m not saying that you should make a dramatic scene saying you love her and then kiss her in the rain, i’m just saying that you should see what she thinks. if a guy told me that he had feelings for me, i would have respect for him. even if i wasn’t interested in him in that way, he had enough balls to come out and tell me.

[gmann70]

A male friend told me that he loved me 15 years ago, when I was in a (BAD) relationship with someone else. I told him I was not interested (& I am still not now). He accepted it and we have managed to remain friends until this day. I think he was brave for telling me. It is hard for most guys to share their feelings, so just go for it. If she’s a good friend & she’s not interested, then it shouldn’t ruin your friendship. See what happens.

[marc22]

personally i wouldn’t tell her, anyone who’s already seeing someone usually won’t like being told that someone else likes them and if i know anything from my own experiences it ruins friendship and any chance of them going out with you. i would wait it out see what happens with her and the other guy and if they break up tell her but if they dont it will be easier for you to move on.

[bouken_spirits]

thats what i’m afraid of happening if i do tell her how i feel about her.i dont want to ruin the friendship but yet i dont want anything bad to come out of it.i understand that i should just go for it but its just the outcome that pulls me back from tellin.

[debra18]

You can tell her at the right time, because I also experienced that before. I’ve been in love with a guy friend and he has a girlfriend. When i told about my feelings with him, he was really shocked about what he was heard from me. I know he was shocked because he’s not expecting that I have a feelings for him and he treat me just only for a friend. It really hurts my feeling, when the one I love treating me just only for a friend. So, I would suggest you to make the right decision. If you’ll know that you a chance, then go!fight for it! 😉

[angelarose20]

Hi all, Dating someone is as hard as actually finding a date. To some finding a date is like a needle in a haystack; to others it is like a mountain flowing with honey.

[serendipidous55]

There are ways to tell someone and ways to not tell someone. Here is a way that could work: I want to pay you a compliment. “I have gotten to know you over the past several weeks and I think you are ( funny? nice to be around? make people comnfortable? interesting to talk to? ) and I think you always look great! I understnad you ae dating ” joe schmoe” but if things don’t work out, I want you to know that I would be interested in dating you. ANd if things are going well now for you, then I hope it just gets better. ” If sonmeone said that to me, I wold accept the compliment and fel great and understand that my existing relationship is being respected and that I can go out with you if I decide to end it.

Good luck!

[kristine08m]

I think tell your someone special.

[April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

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