Feels like everyone is on his side, what I do to deserve this

[china]

So my husband, son and I drove home for the holidays to visit family, he’s in the army. we went to visit his mom.when we were leaving he said he forgot his phone and he went back and didn’t return till ten minutes later. he insisted on driving. When he got back in the car driving to one of my family members house he refused to drive there and he started driving erratically Looking for a house. I thought that was rude so I told him that if he’s not going to take me to my destination then you can get out the car and look for whatever you’re looking for and I can go by myself. He drove me to my moms house and told me to leave and I’m not allowed to come back home. So I said just let me have my car and go. But he said no it’s not mine anymore and it’s in his name and everything is in his name I can’t have nothing. I ended up keeping the car but he unhooked the battery. he took the car without me knowing, Then on xmas day him and his mom came to see his son and left after 5 minutes because she had other places to be. he called to see his son. When he came over he stole my phone because he said he didn’t like what my mother said to him. I found out he left back home without my son and I but his mom is with him I think. I don’t work and I don’t have access to his bank account, his telling everyone I do. He refuses to pay for anything. I have nothing but the clothes I came here with. He wants me to send him my key to the other car we own because he lost his. I don’t understand wh he is doing all of this. what can I do. How can I support myself and get my things back. he’s cheating

[April Masini]

What you’ve started out describing is more of a legal situation about how to access your bank account, your home and your car. If you can’t talk to your husband and resolve these issues together, then you need legal intervention. You can hire an attorney or go to court to get help without one — but the best situation is to be able to work things out between you if you can.

At the very end of your post you kind of threw in that your husband is cheating. 😕 I’m guessing there’s more to this story because his behavior doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It sounds like he wasn’t always like this, and the marriage deteriorated to the point where he started behaving badly and you lost empathy and started pointing fingers. I don’t know if anyone did anything to deserve this, but both of you contributed to the breakdown of the marriage. 😳 I know you’re upset, but it’s important to slow down and get a big picture glimpse of your relationship. 😉 Cheating is a [i]result[/i] of problems in the marriage. It doesn’t matter who’s on who’s side — you have to just focus on what you want now. If you want to work things out you have to look at where you can make things better. But if you just want to end things, then you can do that legally.

Let me know if you have any more questions. I know this is a tough one for you.

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