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Last night I went on a first date with a gentleman who brought me a very nice gift…a mini ipod with a little note thanking me for the chance to meet. He was very gracious and while it was quite a gift, I didn’t feel that he was trying to overwhelm me with his generosity. He scored big points and I thanked him thoughtfully.

This morning I felt that perhaps I should send him an email thanking him again. I sense he is a very generous person and I would like him to see I am a grateful woman, but I like to give him the chance to contact me after the first date, usually after a few days. Sending the email would have broken my own stride.

Is there something else I should do to show my appreciation for a first-date gift other than thanking him that evening?

[April Masini]

Don’t e-mail him. He did everything right. And your instinct to let him contact you after the date is correct too, so stick with that instinct!

Since the i-Pod was a first date gift, this may be the sign of things to come. In other words, your date may turn out to be a consistently generous man, as he’s shown signs of being that, and he may be wealthy enough to shower you with gifts like this and upwards, naturally. He’s also quirky and creative enough to show up with an i-Pod instead of flowers, so you’re in for an interesting relationship!

You will have plenty of time to show your gratitude. If and when he calls again, that’s the appropriate time for you to thank him again for the gift.

[Steve]

Wow…what a good idea. I wish I would have thought of that! As a man with generous tednencies (although much less creative than this guy)…I think I would find an old-fashioned thank you card to be a nice touch…if you know his mailing address, of course.

Along these lines, does anyone know any good websites for those of us with romantic gift giving intetnions but a little creativitly challenged? I’ve done some Googling and have found lots of sites recommending romantic gift giving ideas, but most are either traditional flowers, chocolates and jewlery or things for much longer-term relationships. I am looking for some ideas for things that are cute, quirky and fun that say, “I like you and I’m paying attention to you” but not necessarily “I’m head over heals in love with you.”

[April Masini]

Well, since you asked…. 😉

Check out this link for great first date gifts! [code]http://www.askapril.com/dating-tips-first-date-gifts-100.html[/code]

You may also be interested in my book, Ideas For A Fun Date. I’ve written about lots of fun dates you can take someone on — [i]and[/i] gifts you can give your date on each of those times. You can purchase Ideas for A Fun Date by clicking on the Dating Advice Books link at the top of this page, and scrolling down to Ideas For A Fun Date. If you’re an active dater, this book should be in your bookshelf, the same way a cook stocks cookbooks on hers!

As for being creative in gift giving, my advice is to consider the person you’re giving the gift to when you want to think outside the box. You might get some hints on a great and unique gift based on that person. Or, you could base a gift on the way the two of you met. For instance, if you met on a business trip, you might send her a snow globe with that city’s landmark inside. It will mean something special to her. If you met walking your dogs, send her a big box of dog biscuits! For anyone else that gift might mean something else, but for her, in that situation, it will be endearing. A CD with the music that was playing in the restaurant where you met, is a great gift.

Let me know how you make out with your gift giving!

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