You’re both 15 and life can get really complicated quickly at that age! Suddenly there are crushes and dates and your friendships get complicated by mutual crushes and dueling crushes and dating the same person or dating someone your friend likes — and you’re in the thick of it! The first thing to remember is that it’s okay to be uncomfortable with these new relationship dynamics. If you and your friend both have a crush on the same person, it’s normal to have awkward feelings. So, try and be open about it. When relationships get awkward and complicated — admit your feelings. Tell your friend how awkward you feel. This will clear the air and allow her to tell you how she feels, bringing the two of you closer. She probably feels uncomfortable for having withheld that date secret from you, and by talking about, she’ll feel better, as well you. You’ll be able to tell her that you were hurt that she didn’t confide in you about her date until much later — but that you really do understand why she did what she did. Being open and honest with your friend also puts things in perspective. When you open up and expose your feelings to your friend, you have opportunities to practice honesty, intimacy between friends and to talk about what’s making your relationship awkward.
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