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friend’s mom is flirting with me…

April Masini Relationship Advice Forum Relationship Advice Forum friend’s mom is flirting with me…

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    youngbuck01
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    I’m a 25 years old guy and moved to a new apartment complex about a year ago. I met this other guy that lives in the complex, he’s 22. So we started hanging out here and there (he’s a little bit mentally slow, but still cool to hang with). Then he invited me to play cards at his place one time. This is when I met his mom. She’s in her late 40s and I would say that she’s fairly attractive. She’s separated from her husband and my friend stays with her often but lives with his father the next town over. So over the past 8 months or so that I’ve know them, I’ve hung out at my friends mom’s place multiple times. While hanging out these are some of the things his mom has said or done:
    she has “joked” about her and I taking a bath together (she was laughing a lot when she said this to me), she routinely leans into my shoulder/back ( I can feel her breasts pressed against me when she does this), she tries to “spank” my bottom saying I’m being “fresh” when I’m horsing around with my friend, a couple of times – has shown me a new bra that she bought ( not while she’s wearing it though) to see what I thought, once told me she “didn’t care if I saw her naked”, told me she was going to sleep over at my place ( she was laughing a lot when she said this to me), and was very excited to show me how she looked in her swimsuit ( she, my friend, and I had planned to go to the beach, so I met them at her place, this is when she presented herself to me after putting on her swimsuit). These are just some of the flirty things she has done/said to me during the time I’ve known her. I would have physical relations with her if it did get to that point but I don’t know if I should because of my friend. He doesn’t seem to notice/care about all the flirting his mom has done with me… What should I do?

    #19088
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    If you want to date your friend’s mom, you should probably discuss it with him first. There’s a code among guys and dating a friend’s mother definitely falls within it. Tell him you think his mom is really great, and you think she likes you, and you’re interested in dating her, but only if he’s okay with it.

    #18606
    youngbuck01
    Participant

    Hi April,

    Thank you for the advice. If I do decide to go ahead with any sort of relationship with my friend’s mother, I know that I at least owe it to my friend to pass it by him first so that I am not doing something behind his back that he may not be OK with. I do have a feeling though, that if I do tell him that I am interested in seeing his mother that he would not be too pleased with that proposal. I think I’ll drop some hints about the possibility of my having a relationship with his mother and see how he reacts, then I’ll know better how to proceed.

    Thank you again,
    Youngbuck01

    #17232
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    Don’t “drop hints”. Be clear and let there be no misunderstanding what your intentions are — to date his mom. It’s understandable that he won’t be happy about this, but if you’re okay with his being unhappy, then you can at least know you didn’t go behind his back and lie to him. Age is one thing, but having the character and maturity to be up front closes any age gap. 😉

    #15289
    youngbuck01
    Participant

    Hi April,

    Ok, I will “man up” and do the right thing and be straightforward with my friend regarding how I feel about his mom (ie. that I’m attracted to her) and also relay the fact that she has been flirting with me for awhile now. And I’ll see how he reacts to this and proceed from there….

    #18369
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    Tell him you want to take his mom out on a date. The last thing your friend wants to hear is that you’re only interested in sex. Any adult child wants to know that their mother isn’t being taken advantage of. He’s going to want to hear that your intentions are good. I think that knowing that, you can take it from here.

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