He ended our relationship – plz help..

[forgot25]

Hello everyone! I’m from Greece.
I’d like to talk about a relationship I had, with the man I love, but unfortunately it ended .. I’m 21 and he’s 24 ..
We met each other in university, we’re in the same field .. He was impressed and showed too much interest, and we were very well together … We spent all the time together, and finally lived together very soon …
We did many things together .. He showed me that he loved me .. We spent the whole day together .. The truth is that I was a bit jealous with him more than normal …But he accepted that … Our relationship lasted 2 years … When we left the city where we were studying then came the distance (geographical distance) …
Then, he went to work for a month in Germany (things were worse then between us). I was jealous and we were fighting all the time and this became worse with the distance .. He said that he began to think the geographical distance and he couldn’t bare the way I was treating him any more …I tried to change his mind with no results… After than he had to go to the army in Cyprus …
I stopped communicating with him, and when I did that, he started to communicate with me .. He said he loves me , he sais that he’s afraid … he said that I was the biggest part of his life and he ‘s a coward … I did nothing and he went on to say that he thinks that we could still be together ..
I began to hope again and one day I asked him if he wants to be together again .. And he said that we can’t be together.. I’m about to go crazy .. I love him .. This is hurting me so much..
What should I do; I do not want to lose him for ever ..
Thank you for your time!
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[kai]

I notice that you have placed your question in the forum for Guest Writers and Advice Column Contributors.

This is not in the forum where April answers readers questions.

If you want to get a response from April, please repost your question in the proper forum, the Q & A Advice Forum:

[jdawg]

It sounds like your jealousy may have been too much for him, which i dont blame him. Jealousy needs to be kept under raps and delt with by the person who feels it, because it is not the others problem that you are jealous. It was too much to handle, so he quit things, fair enough. Ask yourself why you felt so jealous. Was he a flirt with other girls, had he cheated? If so then fair enough for feeling this way but you ought to have dumped him for that. If you are jealous out of insecurity, then no one can resolve those issues apart from you. Relationships are difficult at the best of times, ad distance to the equation and it is so much harder. He may still love you but at the end of the day if you continue to be overly jealous, he and any other person you meet, you both will experience difficulties

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