I met a man in the hospital when both our fathers got sick. Both of our dads passed away one month apart. After two months we decided to date but we went slow. After dating a while he pulled away. I told him that for now we should remain friends because none of us wanted to lose each other in our lives. He then confessed to still having feelings for an ex. We met up a couple of times after the break-up. I was dating someone new and he was dating around. Except my new relationship wasn’t working because I still had feelings for him and we were still communicating. I said we can’t be friends but he fought me for us to remain friends. So we did. My new relationship suffered and it ended.
This month he initiated three coffee dates, went to my home to bring me food, and we went out to lunch. Since 5 months have passed since the break-up I thought that maybe he wants to try again.
Recently he told me he has feelings for me, but he is scared he will self sabatoge the relationship and lose me forever because his insecurities will get in the way.
I told him that I still have feelings for him. But if he can’t reciprocate then I can’t be friends with him at the moment. He didn’t say anything. He just held me. He tried to kiss me but I didn’t allow him because what would be the point. We both leave and he sends me a text saying he is sorry. We haven’t communicated since then. I’m confused. All his initiating to see me and talk to me, but he doesn’t want a relationship with me? Did I do the right thing walking away? Or should I reach out and see if anything can come of it.
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