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    relationshipa1
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    I had sex with a stripper on my bachelor party on the night before I got married. I was so drunk that I got stupid and didn’t even use a condom. She said that she’s clean because she’s only ordinary college girl who needed money. A few weeks later my penis started to feel a little sore and it did hurt to urinate. I got tested with a combo of 7 home std test kits that I ordered online from home-bio-test, and all results were negative results for chlamydia, gonorrhea, shypilis, hiv, and hepatitis, and at this time I don’t have any symptoms. Do you think it is just my imagination for feeling guilty to my wife because I had sex with the stripper on my bachelor party?

    #18460
    katdawg
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    in my opinion: i think you should see a doctor and get tested; not rely on a home test to be 100% accurate. that may be why you’re a little paranoid. of course you feel guilty. what you did was wrong. being drunk is no excuse because we really do know what we’re doing. to tell her what you did is going to hurt her tremendously and she may or may not find her way back to trusting you. if you will not be able to live with yourself without telling her then you should annul your marriage. she deserves someone who will be faithful even if tested (as you were). otherwise you should forgive yourself and live everyday ensuring your wife is happy. you owe her that much. i’m curious what April’s opinion is – as to whether or not you should tell your now wife (correct? you’re married now?).

    #18061
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    The bottom line is that you had sex with a stripper without using protection and have put your wife at risk for health problems. I appreciate your home testing methods, but why not take your health and your wife’s health more seriously and make sure that BOTH of you get a full battery of tests from a hospital or a doctor who understands EXACTLY what happened.

    (If this “stripper” had unprotected sex with you, my guess is she’s had it with others before and after you, too. 🙁 )

    Next, tell your wife what happened and what a stupid mistake you made, and how you’re never going to do it again. There is such a strong chance she’s going to find out from someone else at the party or from gossip emanating from one of the bachelor party guests, that your strategy needs to be total disclosure.

    You may also want to deal with your alcohol issues that led you to be so drunk you behaved irresponsibly. Your wife may feel better about the situation if she knows that you’re not just apologetic and remorseful, but are actually doing something, like dealing with your alcohol issues or the friends surrounding the party, to change the behavior that led to this unfortunate incident.

    I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes — and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001113133958[/url]. 😀

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