You need to sit back, take a few deep breathes and let this guy chase you. Do not call him, do not text him, do not email him — unless you are returning his call, text or email — again. Period. In fact, right now you need to “undo” the text you sent him by backing way, way, way off. You went on two dates with the guy and already you’re asking him “where do I stand”?
What you did makes you look needy and desperate. And quite frankly few things will scare men away faster than a needy desperate woman.
Let me explain why…
Men are competitive by nature, and they want to compete to win. They’re hunters. It’s in their DNA. To deny that fact is to deny who men really are. If a woman takes away the opportunity for the man to hunt them, by asking them out, by texting and/or calling them first, by giving the man flowers, or any other act that men traditionally do, the women also take away the opportunity from the man to be the hunter he is. When women make themselves too available by texting, calling, e-mailing, showing up everywhere she knows he’ll be — it’s too easy. It’s like fishing in a pond with a shotgun. No man feels like a real man — or feels good about himself in the long run — after doing that!
Sure, we may all be looking for someone to spend our lives with, but how we go about finding that love is as different as night and day. For better or worse, men are simply programmed to be the aggressors, the pursuers. No matter how enlightened or progressive they may be, if they don
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