HELP!! IS HE CHEATING??

[alaniz208]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for more then 2 years….everything was going ok untill recently i had a dream that he was cheating on me with this other girl that he had a thing with a while back…he left her to be with me and he said that he didnt even know why he kissed her..he just wanted to forget about me. then she has become so obsessed with him. and well just recently like 2 days after i had this dream i told a class mate about it and he just looked at me and said….YESTERDAY I SAW YOUR B-F WITH A GIRL BY THE STAIRS
and it was the same girl that he had a thing with….
i felt so bad because i had suspected it before and i thought i was trippin cuz i have cheated on him a couple times and i think that its becasue i did it to him that he will do it to me….but idk…cuz im hurt that he didnt tell me and i confronted him about it and he didnt know what to say…he says that they were just talking and that she told him that she wasnted to be with him and that it hurt her seeing him with me…and he told me that he supposedly told her that he didnt wanna be with her and that he was with me and that he loved me…but idk for some reason i dont belive him and idk why..i want to but its SO HARD…and what makes me even more mad is that SHE IS UGLY…na im not sayin that cuz i hate her but SHE REALLY IS…ugh even my friends think shes nasty…I NEED HELP!!

[jlemons]

you’re right, you do need help. you cheated on him and yet you want and expect him to be faithful to you? are you for real? you two deserve each other.

[kayloni]

I don’t know if I would say that you two deserve each other, but I can say that you two either need a fresh start with each other, or a fresh start with someone different. Either way, you need a fresh start. Honesty is always the best policy. That goes for both you and your partner. From the way you write and what you said, it sounds to me like you are still young. You are going to make mistakes. That is inevitable. Just don’t make the same mistake over and over.

If you truly love this guy, then you both need to come clean. However, I feel the need to say that I don’t think that you do truly love this guy. If you have cheated on him “a couple of times”, it seems apparent that you are just looking for someone to be there to give you what you want. That’s not a bad thing. That goes back to what I said about you being young.

In life, you are going to get hurt, and you are going to hurt others. Whether or not he is cheating with this other girl, or whether or not something happened between them on the day of question, I think, is not what you need to be questioning here. I think that what you need to be questioning is what you really want out of him. If he does not make you happy, or he does not fulfill your needs enough for you to cheat on him, then you need to find someone else.

[April Masini]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and just because you think a woman is ugly doesn’t mean she doesn’t have sex appeal and charisma. In fact lots of beautiful women are cheated on and left for less beautiful woman all the time. Attraction is what makes someone beautiful and it sounds like your boyfriend and this woman you think is ugly have an attraction.

In fact your dream is probably your subconscious helping you understand what’s been bother you about your boyfriend and this woman: whether or not he’s cheating on you, he’s attracted to her.

Since you’ve admitted cheating on him, it sounds like this relationship is going to be one where cheating and looking elsewhere for sparks is the norm.

A boyfriend should make you feel special and desired. If he doesn’t, it may be time for a new boyfriend!

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