Help- IS HE PLAYING MIND GAMES W/ ME?

[Lost732]

I’m bad at this dating thing, and I rather men to be blunt with me… don’t have time to read body language or play mind games. I’ve been dating this guy for sometime now, however I felt he has lost interest in me, so I asked him if he was interested yes or no.. he replied “YES”. He told me I had it so wrong…. and he thinks the world of me.

Oh here is an example: he kissed me on my forehead… I felt insulted, as if I was a 2 yr. old child. If a Woman kisses a man that way… I don’t think it’s a good thing.

We don’t spend much face to face time together, we chat on the phone, IM’ email and text. He calls me by the same sweet nickname, and I do the same w/ him. When we do get the chance to be in each others company we’ll spend hours together. During conversations if he went out somewhere w/ anyone he would mention he was with another guy, I’m not looking to know if it was or not…. yet if he went out with a “friend” I know it’s a girl.

He also has a small collection of my things including my house keys which he has not returned even thou I have asked for them. And he always inquires what have I been doing when we see other. This also throws me off, we talk everyday… he knows what I’m doing. So what’s really on this guys mind?

Thanks

[April Masini]

You need to understand dating rather than dismissing yourself as bad at it. Sorry, you don’t get to get away with that excuse for not doing the work. 😆 First of all, get my book, Think & Date Like A Man, so you can EASILY understand what to do, what not to do, and what he means when he does X, Y and Z. You can download the book at this link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] for only $15.95 — trust me. It’s a bargain at this price because it will change your dating life — and it sure sounds like you’d like that to happen! 😀

Your guy isn’t playing games with you, but he’s showing interest in you but not getting any positive reinforcement. 🙁 Men want to chase women. It’s fun for them. It makes them feel good, and they like it. If you don’t give him something TO chase, you’re going to make the game a real drag for him. Asking him if he’s interested in you is really not very sexy or romantic. What you need to focus on is making yourself alluring and mysterious so that HE wants to find out more about you and he wants to spend more time with you and he’ll be sure to make a date with you because he doesn’t want to risk losing you to other guys.

Read the book and then walk the walk and talk the talk. You won’t see his behavior as mind games any more and you’ll be a lot more confident about what YOU’RE doing! 🙂

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[Celeste]

It sounds to me like there are no mixed signals at all. The kissing on the forehead is just a sign of affection. My boyfriend does it to me, but he also kisses me on the lips too. Its just like any other kiss, affection. Also, when he doesn’t directly state that he was out with another girl and saying a friend instead could very easily just be a way to prevent you from being jealous. While idealy girls shouldn’t have problems with their guys hanging out with other girls that are friends, it’s not an ideal world, and jealousy is something that lies in everyone, just different things trigger it. And with girls, it can often times be other girls. So it sounds like he’s just keeping from hurting you or making you jealous over something that is not meant to be thought of that way.

Also, he is simply asking how your day was to start conversation, show that he actually cares how your day was. I would be more suspicious or offended if he didn’t ask, it means that he really doesn’t care at all! The keys thing could just be a slip of memory for him, but nothing to really look into, imo. To me, it sounds like you have a guy who is crazy about you, you don’t have anything to worry about!

[April Masini]

[b]Celeste[/b] gave you some great advice.

The mind games seem to be in your own head. In reality, the two of you are dating and as long as he keeps asking you out, it doesn’t seem like there’s a problem. I would, however, still encourage you to read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so the nuances of dating behavior don’t freak you out more than they should. Understanding the differences between men and women and what their behaviors during dating means will make you feel A LOT more confident in your relationship! 😀

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