How do I handle this?

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    nervene
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    My boyfriend left the country a few weeks ago to go visit his family in Afghanistan. Before he left he sent me a text saying he wanted a break and was unsure of how he felt. I was heart broken and a few days later I asked him over facebook if by “break” he meant “it’s over”, he said he was unsure and asked if we could talk when he came back. A week later he told me I was still his girl, that he still loved me and really wanted to talk to me when he came home again and that he hoped I didn’t meet other guys. This is really frustrating for me, becaouse I can’t see him or at least call to talk to him.. 😕

    He said the reason he left was to sort things out. He has a lot of problems in his life and with his family. And he used to smoke weed but quit a couple of weeks before he left. I know this is hard for him and I felt he could sometimes get really frustrated over small things. Anyway, he said he is thinking clearer now and felt stupid for breaking up with me.

    But, in a week he will be home. And if he ment what he said, that he wanted to talk to me, I’m a little scared of what to say and what to do. I don’t want to rush thing so that I will end up hurt again. Are there some thing I should absolutely NOT do or say? Do I take him back with open arms or do I hold back at first?

    Or should I forget all about him? Is it not worth it?

    #22493
    April Masini
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    How old are you both and how long have you been dating?

    #22494
    nervene
    Participant

    I am 20 he just turned 22. We had been dating for 9-10 months, and have known each other for 4 years.

    #22317
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    It sounds like you know what you’ve got in him — a young man you’ve been dating for 10 months, who’s got problems, gets upset easily and is a little unstable — enough so that he’ll suddenly take a break from the relationship without warning. The thing is, if you know what you’ve got in him then it’s unreasonable for you to expect him to behave differently.

    You have to decide what you want in a man and in a relationship. You’re not going to get stability from him. My advice is that you listen to what he has to say and not respond. Give yourself a chance to consider what it is he’s done, said and what you want. 😉

    I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1154528031[/url].

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