How to approach my neighbor

[Boomersooner1]

So there is a girl, close to my age I think, that lives diagonal from me across the street. I see her sometimes outside or when she drives by and I always wave, and she always smiles and waves back. I have been wanting to meet her and talk to her but I just dont know how to go about it without coming off weird or anything like that. I was thinkin about stopping her when she drives by or hollering at her when I see her outside but im just not sure. So how do you think I should go about talkin to her and meeting her? And what should I say to her? I mean I would like to meet her, maybe go out on a date, be friends, whatever, I just need to know how I should go about this the best way. Please help me out, Thanks a lot!

[April Masini]

When you see her to wave, you can walk over and introduce yourself. She’s already smiling at you and waving back — that’s a sign that she’s interested in you! Start a conversation and see if you like her and if the two of you have anything in common. If you do, you can ask her out on a date, or ask for her phone number or wait until the next time you see her to ask her out. 😉

I hope that helps!

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[Boomersooner1]

Well I finally met my neighbor lol. And it went really well, we had a nice conversation and ended up talkin about our dogs and she mentioned we should take them for a walk some time. Should I just wait till I see her outside next and ask when are we gonna go for that walk? Or next time I take my dogs for a walk should I just go knock on her door? The thing is I never know when she is home and she does live with her uncle and grandma, who I have never met. So I dont want to feel akward knockin on their door and she isnt home lol. What do ya think should be my next move??

[April Masini]

You can knock on her door and invite her on a date, or you can wait until you see her next. If you find your’e waiting too long for a chance meeting, then knock on her door. 😉

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[happysri]

dear april…do plese get my lover back.i and my BF wher in love for 5yrs.we alwys have fights n misunderstndg bcoz of me.i wil fight misunderstnd him.but he used to adjust with me loves me much.but now i m fine changed myself…but he alwaz feels that he dont have a sister from childhood.so in his college he meet a girl and had a very true brother sister relationship all by my permission.now she left and went becoz her parents told her to not talk with my BF.so she went.and so my BF is so depressed and showing all that aggressions on me over 6 months.already our caste is a prob.his parents wont accept me for my caste but then too he loved me having some hope.but after a prob by this girl he completly lost hope in marrying me.he is in so vexed state.he s not deserving me.i tried a lot lot lot.but hes sayin me to be stable n stay away do prepared to what eva my parents say either yes or no.he is strong enough now even to leav me..but i know all that in that pain he is hurting me.but i dont know how to make him realize.coz he dont want to give a pain for me in future when his parents say no to him.coz he had that pain becoz of that girl as a brother.they both are same college.i am in diff place far from him.itz so tough to make him remember me too.even now if i spek he will atten but he told to not speak daily n many conditions killing me by being rude..so i ve decided to not talk for 5months untill he realize my absence n come to me.will it help him come back????or what can i do to make him feel my love and pain…plzzzzzzzz help plzz!!!

[April Masini]

Please start a new thread for your new conversation. 😀 I’m happy to answer you when you do, there.

[Boomersooner1]

Well things have went well, until now lol. So I went over a 2nd time when she was outside, talked to her a bit, and said we should go walk our dogs the next day, because she said she wasnt busy. So that day came along and she wasnt home, So I walked my dogs by myself and when I got back home she was outside her house. So I went over to talk to her for a 3rd time, asked if she wanted to go for a walk, she had to do her sisters hair, but I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I text her so she would have my number and told her I would let her go since she was busy and to text me whenever. Well that was two days ago, and I havent heard from her, So i text her today saying “Hey whats up?” and that was almost 3 hours ago and she hasnt responded. If she doesnt respond, which I dont think she is, What should I do now? Is she not interested or what? I dont know if I need to back off a bit and leave her alone for awhile or what? So what do you think should be my next move? Thanks for any help, I appreciate it.

[April Masini]

Ask her if she’d like to go see a movie or have dinner.

You have to put yourself out there and risk rejection, in order to get a response you’re looking for. If she says yes, you’ve got a date! If she says no, you don’t have to waste your time any more, and you can move on without much damage done. 😉

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[Boomersooner1]

Well I mean how am I supposed to ask her if she didnt respond to my text message??

[April Masini]

Re-read my Friday, August 10 post to you in this thread! 😉

[Boomersooner1]

So about a month ago, I started hangin out with a
girl from high school. We would go to the lake, go
out to dinner, and she even slept in my bed a
couple times but we have never done anything, not
even kiss. We would talk every day and I began to
feel like we were dating and this had a chance to go
somewhere. After a month of hangin out a lot and
talking every day, I was around her best friend one
day. I decided to ask her friend what she thought
about me, cause I figured her best friend would
know. Well she said that she just wanted to be
friends and enjoyed hanging out with me. I was
pretty upset because I really liked the girl, but
accepted the fact and figured we could just be good
friends. Well the next day we had pool plans, she
ditched me, and nothing has been the same since.
That was two weeks ago and we havent hung out
once since then and she doesnt text me anymore
and barely talks to me. I guess her friend told her
what I asked and I dunno what the deal is. Well I
would really like to have a friendship with her still
and we have a vacation already planned a couple
months away. What do I need to do to fix this and
have a good friendship with her. I dont want things
to be awkward, I am perfectly fine with just being
friends. How do I go about fixing this and
establishing a good friendship with her?

[April Masini]

You can’t have a friendship with a woman. It won’t work. In fact, you’re seeing that now. At your age, women are either people you’re interested in dating, people you are dating, or people you used to date. My advice is to take this current rejection as a gift — because it keeps you from wasting time with someone who’s not interested, and allows you to be truly single to find someone who is! — look for someone to date, elsewhere. 😉

Hope that helps!

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