how to break away? im confused. PLEASE give me advice!

[reallyneedhelp]

I was with my ex for 3 yrs. he took my virginity and i was his first love. at first (the first year) things were great. we developed a strong bond and loved each other very much. however, over the other 2 years i found out that he was doing things he shouldnt such as giving other females his address, going to see other females, and some of them even told me he had sex with them and performed oral sex on them. he always denies the oral sex part and says that he did not sleep with them while we were together. but i think he is lying.

when i be nice to him he acts like a jerk and says mean things to me, doesnt respond to my text messages til hours or days later (if at all), doesnt answer my calls, and even says that he ‘isnt rushing to go see me’. for instance, one time he was locked out his friend house (his male friend house where he lives) and had no where to sleep that night so i let him spend the night in my house and we got into an argument about why we broke up and he had the nerve to call me a bitch and say ‘you cant make me leave. do somethin!’ after i was nice enough to even let him spend the night.

recently we had sex and without telling me or getting my permission he took the condom off and came in me. then when i asked him if he wanted me to have his baby he said no so i asked him ‘then why would you take the condom off and purposely cum inside of me?’ and he said ‘because it felt good’ so thats when i got mad at him and because i got mad at him he said ‘dissappear out my life’ and i asked him to repeat what he said to make sure i heard him correctly and he said ‘you heard me. i said dissappear out of me life’ so i said ok and hung up the phone. that hurt me so bad i wanted to break down and cry.

for the past 4 days he has been calling me and texting me (i have not responded to any of those messages). he then texted me and said ‘i want to come to ur house to make it up to you. i apologise. i was just scared.’ but he texted me this at midnight.

im sick of him being really mean to me every time im nice to him and if you ask me he had no right to tell me to dissappear out his life just because i got mad. i had every right to get mad. so what do you think i should do now? continue to ignore him?

[cutipie91]

YES!!! DEFINETLY IGNORE HIM!!! AND OF COURSE HE WANTS TO GO MAKE IT UP TO YOU HE WANTS TO HAVE SEX AGAIN!!! WHY OWULD ANY OF THOSE GIRLS LIE TO U?? IF U KNO THAT THEY HAVE NOTHIN AGAINST U THEY HAVE NO REASON TO BE LYING….DNT TALK TO HIM….HE WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE!!!

[April Masini]

You may be nice, but you’re not acting smart. More like a doormat, really. Your ex-boyfriend and sometime lover is really a loser. 🙄 He is mean, disrespectful, and puts your life in danger by taking the condom off in the middle of sex with you, when you know he’s sleeping with other women.

Why on earth would you consider giving him the time of day? Don’t you deserve better than this? (YES!!)

Since you seem to be having trouble breaking away, and you absolutely need to get him out of your life as of yesterday, here’s how:

1. Stop taking his calls.

2. Don’t return his texts or calls or e-mails.

3. If he does manage to reach you, simply say, “I don’t want to see you again.” Then hang up or walk away.

It’s really that easy. If you continue to be “nice” (which is really code for being a chump in this case), and let him sleep at your house when he’s locked out of his, continue to see him after he told you to disappear out of his life, and have sex with him when you know he’s already put you at risk of sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy during sex, you’re going to be miserable.

Stop your behavior today, and start looking for a really great guy to date — no more losers. You have a responsibility to yourself to do right by you. Start taking that responsibility seriously. Don’t give yourself credit for being “nice.” Instead, give yourself credit every time you do something smart! 🙂 Dating smart is important if you want to be happy in a relationship. If you’re not sure how to do it, check out my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] for $15.95. It’s a great book for people who need support in getting out of a Mr. Wrong rut, and onto the Mr. Right track.

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