[adviceseeker]

while i was interning somewhere and there was a girl i had a crush on. we used to talk a lot… i even used to call her sometimes and we used to talk for hours. our internship ended after 2 months..so after 3-4 months i gathered courage and asked her out. she had some plans and refused. after a month i got frustrated and told her about how i feel about her. she replied that she like me as a friend only. So i moved on and kept talking to her like a normal friend. but i cant get over this girl. i have been trying hard to get over this girl but i cant.. i cant hav this girl but i cant even forget her. i need help seriously because i cant stop thinking about her. i hav not been msging her since the past 1 week but still i cant get her out of my mind. what should i do? should i stop talking to her? are there any chances that she will like me in future?

[April Masini]

You’re in the friend zone, and it’s not a comfortable place to be! My advice is to get out by stopping your contact with her. Ironically, when you do do this, you’re showing strength, and if you still want to date her, ask her again in a few months after the absence of contact. Women are attracted to men who are confident and have their own lives and successes. By showing her that you care too much about her to be her friend, and only want her if she’s willing to date you, you’re making yourself more attractive. Obviously, the risk is a loss of contact, but the contact you’ve been having isn’t helping you — it’s hurting you. Please stay in the friend zone because they fear loss of contact and moving on forever, but unless you’re willing to take that risk, you’ll just have more of the same discomfort you have now.

Let me know if you have any other questions.

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