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I have known and been dating a guy for almost 5 months. We have held hands in public.. We enjoyed each other’s company. He would compliment my hair/ dressing occasionally, bring me out for dinner dates every time. Recently, he’s getting a bit touchy feely, but he’s not getting to the forbidden areas, just my face, back and arms. In fact, I like his touch. However, he has not talked anything about us, like where we are heading, the status of our relationship etc. We also do not have frequent night calls or texts, except to arrange weekly dates. This is perhaps because both of us are busy with work. My friends told me that holding hand is a way for the guy to say that he wants a serious relationship. And if I hold his without rejecting, it means I agree to the relationship? Is it true? Do we need to formally address this issue of commitment instead of assuming that we are in a serious relationship? Please help. This is the first time I am venturing into relationships… thanks!

[April Masini]

Holding hands is a sign of affection, but it doesn’t mean anything other than that. In other words, it does not mean that your boyfriend wants a serious relationship, and if you hold hands back, it doesn’t mean that you do, either. It just means you like each other enough to hold hands.

That said….it really sounds like your relationship with this guy is on a good track. If you’re dating regularly, and he’s becoming more and more touchy feely, and he holds hands with you frequently, I think he likes you! 🙂

DO NOT have any kind of talk with him about a “formal relationship” or a commitment. Never, never, institute “the talk”. Guys hate this, and it makes them feel pressured and out of control. The trick to making this relationship continue to go smoothly is to continue to be alluring and mysterious as well as fun and affectionate.

Check out my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that you can get at this link [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], and read it, a little each day or night, and you’ll get everything you need to make sure you’re doing things according to plan, if your plan is to find Mr. Right.

You’ll read beyond these basics, like, if a man is serious about you, he’ll introduce you to his friends, and finally, you’ll meet his family. He’ll treat you like his girlfriend (holding hands in public counts!) 😉 He’ll start acting like he’s part of a couple and wanting to do things with other seriously dating couples or married couples rather than feeling like a single.

I hope that helps, but if you want even more help, get my book. It’s written exactly for someone like you who’s looking for some relationship guidance. 🙂

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