i don’t know if he serious enough

[mae4ever]

Here’s another guy of my life.I am not taking it seriously because I know we can’t be together because we have a different religion.But here’s the story.. 🙂
We’ve known each other for 2 months. I met him online. We also hang out several times most of them is to walk at night.Just last night he asked me to come over to his house. He actually asked me to sleep with him but we talked about “sex” thing. That I don’t want that to happen and he respected it and he said he just want to hold me.He also said that he didn’t mean anything has to happen. So i decided to came over and not to sleep but to watch movie. Because I remember what he said .That we actually know each other for a month and he said in (yahoo chat)that it’s like “no kissing, holding hands, no touching no nothing” and maybe because he wants some affection.And because I told him I like him too.

And so, I came over last night.As I entered , he didn’t even open the door for me and let me come in first which is the weird part! 😕 He toured me in his house but not in his room or the second level.The house is so clean and neat.We watched movie in in his theater room and we’re so close to each other, sitting next to each other. He hold me so tight.Until the movie finished, we lay down and we hugged and started to kiss and touched.We keep on kissing, hugging and touching and there’s some point that he’s on top of me. 😀 And because I need to leave by 12, I keep on checking the time and that irritates him. 🙄 Even if we know that we still have an hour i keep on checking it .And the fact that i keep on stop kissing him and kiss him again and stop. And he asked me why. I said , because it may lead into something.He said, It wont lead into anything. 🙂 But the thing is the reason why I keep on stopping is to stop the arousal. Because I accidentally touched the head of his “pen*s” while i was touching his body specifically his tummy. 😯 By 12 MN, I decided to go home. And he took me home. And he did text me after that, that he was glad I came over and didn’t expect those stuff will happen, and that it was great. 😀

So to make the long story short, we didn’t have sex which is good.My question is I don’t know if he’s looking for a relationship or just playing to have sex soon.A lil bit info about him .He’s 29yrs old, he’s stable, has his own place,job and he’s arrogant,really.And me I’m 21,and stubborn. Bad part, we have nothing in common. 🙁
I don’t know if he really likes me because the way he acts.Like when I moved into a new place, he got mad at me because he asked me why I didn’t tell him.He told me I don’t tell him anything.He also told me that he will get upset if I am dating somebody else.And the last thing is, I told him that I applied for a new job and he’s updating/ asking me on what’s going on now. Which is sweet for me. 🙂 .

Please help me. i don’t really want to get attached with him. I love him to be around. Confused… 😕Sorry it’s long and Thank you for keep on advising. You’re the best April! 😀

[April Masini]

You said in your first sentence that he was wrong for you because you have incompatible religions. Well…if you already know religion is a deal breaker, and he’s not right for you, why on earth would you spend any time with him? 😳

If you want to find Mr. Right, you have to be selective. You’re wasting your time and his if you know you’re incompatible and yet you still choose to go out with him. 🙁

If you don’t want to get attached to him, then stop seeing him. It’s that simple.

[mae4ever]

wow…!i got a quick response!i was thinking of that.I don’t know why.But I can invite him to my church or worship service.

But thank you by the way!so muchhhh!… 🙂

[katdawg]

shouldn’t you choose your partner from within the religion you are? it would be different if he asked to go see what your religion was like but it would be like you’re forcing him to conform or change who he is and i can say, guys don’t like that much. religion is important because when you have children and the parents are practicing different religions that is going to cause a lot of frustration and confusion in your children. that’s just not nice.

[April Masini]

Don’t forget that you’re incompatible with this guy, and you’ve already said, yourself, that he’s wrong for you, so when you invite him to church, or anywhere for that matter, you’re just wasting your time — and his. 😳

[mae4ever]

But April I’m starting to like this guy. 🙂 So is there any possibilities that he really likes me? 😕
Oh by the way, he actually just told me last night that he doesn’t want more than kissing,hugging or cuddling.Because he wants to know me first before sex…And I like it.Because he’s respecting me enough..

Please April..help me.. 🙂

Thank you, Thank you.. 😀

[April Masini]

You titled your post: [i]I Don’t Know If He’s Serious Enough. [/i]

Well, I don’t think YOU’RE serious enough. 😳

You said up front: [b]“Here’s another guy of my life.I am not taking it seriously because I know we can’t be together because we have a different religion.”[/b]

I’ve told you already that you’re wasting your time and his — but clearly you don’t want my advice. If you do, you would have taken it already.

Sorry I can’t help you.

[katdawg]

tie your tubes and don’t have children with this man. how irresponsible to even consider it if religion is an important part of your life. don’t put children in the middle of that if you choose not to listen to April’s advice.

[mae4ever]

To April: you are really right I’m just wasting my time and his.That’s alright..Thank you though..I think I should have stop now before anything could happen..and to Katdawg you have a point and u are right.Maybe I’m still immature coz I’m not really serious.

Both of u Thank you. I really appreciated..

[April Masini]

I’m glad if I was able to help. It may be beneficial for you to read all your posts to me, and my responses. You may begin to see a pattern.

What you do know about yourself is that you like attention, and if you can find a way to get that attention with Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now, you’ll be in a winning position. 🙂

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