I know she likes me after the first date, but I’m lost.

[Bowhunter]

Dear April,

I have just recently been out of about a 3 year relationship (about 6 months). I’ve been using a free dating website to meet new people and possibly someone I’d like to date. I did not believe I’d actually meet someone. I’ve been on a few dates, and they were great but we would only make great friends. Well last week I began taliking with a new lady. We had great conversation, so we decided to meet for dinner.

I went into the date being optimistic; as I always am. We went for a nice dinner around 7. The date started and it went great. We were laughing, found we had some great commonalities, and some good differences that brought some flirtatious banter. We ended up sitting at the restaurant until after they closed (10:30). Then we sat in the parking lot and talked for another 2 hours. Nothing was forced and we were both having a great time. By the end of the date, we were talking about how we both had an awesome time and would like to do this again.

Well the next morning come, and I sent her and early morning text asking if she got to work on time and added a little joke in there about what she told me during our date and that I had a great time. She said if she is out late she will go into work in khakis and have her hair up. I asked her about that, and she said she actually got up very early and even fixed her hair in a new style for work. Then I told her that was awesome and that I may have to see this new style sometime.

Well we didn’t text for a little while after that. I invited her to a cookout for Friday by the lake. She said she would love to, but she needed to check with a family member of hers if she needed her to come early to help with a wedding on new years. We left it at that. I didn’t hear from her for about 24 hours, and then she said she couldn’t make it and had to go to the wedding. I was fine with that and said I understood.

Also, during our date we talked about honesty and how that is something we both believe in. Well I went on to the dating site to delete my profile, and she had already deleted or disabled hers before I went on to do so.

I guess my question is, it’s New Year’s Eve and I haven’t heard from her any and I’m just holding out to see if she says anything. I’m taking it as she is very busy right now and just waiting. What is the next step I should take? I really liked her after the first date and would like to get to know her more. Although, I don’t want to try and talk to her if she doesn’t want to at the moment or too busy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

Bowhunter

[kyle]

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kyle

[Bowhunter]

I checked your story out. Sounds like we’re in the same boat. I think I’m going to do the same thing you have done and say the heck with it for now. If she calls, she calls. If she don’t, she don’t. I sent her a little quick message of happy new year, and ironically haven’t heard anything back. That’s fine though, there’s plenty more fish in the sea. Her loss.

[April Masini]

I think you’re giving up way too soon. You had a great date with her, then you asked her out for a second date and she said she couldn’t make it because of a previous engagement and you never asked her out again. 😳 Ask her out on a second date! If she says no, then you can move on, but if you don’t, you’ll never know. Try it — and let me know how it goes.

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1154528031[/url]. 😀

[Bowhunter]

Ok, Thanks April 🙂 …That’s what I was thinking to do, but I’ve been told by others just to leave it alone. I was thinking about tomorrow evening to give her a call.. That way the eventful weekend will be over. What would you recommend to try for a second date? I have some ideas but haven’t confirmed to one idea.

[acgibson]

If she’s still interested, then keep pursuing her! Females are taught to let the males do the pursuing. So just because you haven’t heard from her doesn’t mean she’s not interested. She may be waiting for you too!

[Bowhunter]

Thanks for your advice and interest; I really appreciate it. I believe where my problem is, is knowing how to pursue her. I’m not real sure on how much to do and what not to do. I’m not good at the game and it kills me. I’m guessing to call her and talk no more than 5 minutes just to get another date.

[April Masini]

Dating is a game, and it’s competitive. So it’s a good idea to hone your game! If you read Date Out of Your League, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], a book I wrote for men who want to win with women, you’re going to be ahead of the game! Think about it — you wouldn’t take an important test without studying, so why try dating without preparing?

I hope you’ll buy and read the book, so you have an edge when you date. 😀

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