I Love Him and he has Aspergers

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So I dated a guy I met at work he works security. While we dated I knew something was strange. He ended the relationship saying he was romantically in love anymore. It was a hard break up for me because we got along so well. It wasn`t till a week after we broke up that I found out that he had aspergers syndrome. My brother suffers from the same thing so I know a lot about it. I asked him if he ever saw us maybe getting back together again and he said no.

I haven`t talked to him for a month and just recently I got a text from him saying he missed hanging out with me and seeing me. He missed the attention. I was sick with the flu that night and he came over after his security job all the way to my house to see me. He pulled me into a hug and I nearly cried because I miss his touch and his closeness. We started to see eachother as friend again and I started getting feelings for him again. He knows that I know about his syndrome and I don`t care if he has it.

I was at his house one day and he stares at me and then pulls me in for a kiss and I kiss back. I missed it. He has picked me up from work and all and has seem to have changed a lot. We recently had sex for the first time together and it was amazing, he said it was the best he ever had. And we cuddled afterwards. It was just the best and it felt so right, I missed him.

I tried talking to him about maybe a relationship again but he changes the subject. I know he does not know how to react to it. I know he wants me back his mother told me he missed me when I was gone and that he changed for the worse.

He is coming over tomorrow for dinner. What are somethings I can do to show that I still care for him deeply and want more. He does not take hints well so I have to be creative. (If you know what aspergers syndrome is then you know what I am talking about) I need to be straight with him to understand. What can I say or do that shows him I care?

[April Masini]

First of all, don’t have “the talk” about the relationship, it’s status, where it’s going, etc. Men HATE this. You will push him away if you bring up “the relationship”. You will know how the relationship is going if you pay attention to his behavior. 😉

Second, friendship with an ex never works. In fact, you can probably see this now — since you befriended him, conjured up feelings again, slept with him, and are having dinner with him. You’re not friends (friends don’t have sex with each other) — you’re dating.

Third, now that you know you’re dating, make sure he’s someone worth dating. In other words, you’ll know if he wants a relationship with you by the way he treats you. If he takes you out, spends time and money on you, treats you like a girlfriend, and there appears to be a future together based on all this, then you have boyfriend material! You can read Think & Date Like A Man, for more details, tips and advice on this: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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