I pay the bills

[sunshine7]

I’m really needing some advice here. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. The whole time we have been together I have paid for the bills. This was something that was discussed during our entire relationship, he knew and I knew it. I told him from the beginning that I didn’t want someone to take care of and that I did wanted a partner. He just started giving me a little bit of money a month in the last few months. I feel that this isn’t fair. I make more money then him, but I have always worked hard for everything. He has to pay child support and he just bought a new car that I was not happy about at all. I felt very disrespected that he bought a brand new car for $500 a month, but can’t meet me half way with the living expenses. I’ve always told him that I want a partner not a someone to take care of. He’s moving out …….did I make the right choice? I know he loves me, but there’s more to a relationship then just love. I’ll be 32 this year and want kids and want a partner that can meet me half way. Did I do the right thing by breaking it off?
I’m not trying to gain monetary profit I’m more then capable of support myself. But, I don’t think that it’s right that he has no desire to better his financial situation and relies on me to support him. I travel for work and I would like to have children and once I do, he would have to pick up the slack. I don’t see that happening. I do love him and he’s a good person. But when your fronting the bill majority of the time it gets old and you start to feel used.
I don’t know why I feel bad for taking a stand for myself? Am I wrong for wanting him to step it up?

[kai]

Hey SunShine7,

I’ve told this to several other people who have posted questions here: the welcome area [b]IS NOT for questions[/b] and [u]should not[/u] be used to get advice. 😮

it says “DO NOT post your questions” here, when you go to sign up. 😳

Please [b]repost your question in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum[/b] .

[color=#FF0000]you won’t get a response to your question here[/color] — this is the welcome area. 😀

[April Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

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