I really like a girl from work, she is filing for divorce. Should I tell her I like her or what?

[raulchindris]

There’s this girl at work, I liked her from the moment I met her. She barely spoke with anyone at the beginning but in time she got used to us and she started saying she moved from another city just to get away from her husband who cheated on her. She now is filing for divorce and is waiting for the paperwork from what I understand, but last Friday when we spoke she said that her husband will come today to visit her. She said that she’ll try and listen to everything he has to say so she won’t regret anything later down the line. It sounds like she may have second thoughts…In the meantime I’ve been going out of my way just to be as supportive and fun for her so she can at least smile at work. We text everyday and I even stay overtime just to talk to her at work until she was also done. We went out once and we got along good, and in between all of these we hug and I kiss her on the cheek or forehead. But now that she said her husband is coming to visit I just feel the need to hurry things up a bit and at least tell her that I really like her (if she doesn’t know already) and I am willing to wait for her to get through all of this and be there for her. I don’t need a straight up answer from her, it would be too much, but at least I want her to know my feelings and from that moment things will be back to normal, I will do all of those nice things I did for her and still want to take her out and be there for her..just that from now at least she’ll know that I’m also doing it because I want to be more for her. Why do you thing, should I tell her or wait to see what they talked?

[April Masini]

I don’t think you should tell her your feelings. I know you’re anxious that she’s meeting with her husband and you don’t want to lose your advantage, so you think that telling her your feelings will put your chip on the board and give her something to look forward to, but the reality is that she’s in the process of a divorce and it’s much better for her (and for you) if she decides to divorce her husband and goes through with it because of what happened between the two of them. You see, if she divorces him because of you — and the two of you have a fight or things start to go sour in a relationship you may have with her, she’ll look back to him as a saving grace because she’ll think she left him for you. But if she left him on her own and divorced him on her own, she’s going to start dating you, when she does, because she’s single, free and wants to be with you!

So hang tight — you’re interested in a married woman who is trying to get divorced. Let her. Don’t interfere. And when she is you’ll feel much better about the two of you. I hope that helps! 🙂

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