I think I am in love with two men!! PLEASE HELP

[tmaloney4646]

To start from the beginning I was/still am with my boyfriend going on 6 years. For the past 2 years our relationship has been very rocky. My boyfriend would sleep on the couch as I would go up stairs and go to bed. I then started to work all the time and not want to be home at all because of how we would fight all the time and not get along. I have not always been the most faithful girlfriend in the world and also thought that I could get away with almost anything. I have cheated on my boyfriend on numerous occasions and never got caught, it was like I loved the risk of it all. About 3 months ago I was let go from my job and was left with nothing. I applied at a place working with children and got a phone call a month later saying i got the job. I started in July, from the first day I started this one gentleman caught my eye. I couldnt help but want him and everything about him. I found out he was and has been married for the last 11 years and also has 2 children.

So as time went on the attraction just seemed to get stronger. One day while working together making the kids something to eat, he had jokingly pushed me into the closet where food was stored and said to one of the other staff we will just be a minute. That is when it all started. I think it was 2 days later after work he asked me to hang out with him. Now, he knew I was in a very long relationship and I knew that he was married, however neither one of us cared. So as the first week went on we hung out almost ever night. One thing that I didnt like with this guy is that he seemed very aggressive, later I found out he was taking steriods and well I should have knew that considering the way he looked. Anyway, one night in the first week we were hanging out he said he didnt want to do anything. I however got upset with that answer and was trying to text the one girl that I worked with there to ask her if I should call him and ask him if he wants to meet up. Well all these nights I had been telling my boyfriend that I was working OT. He worked overnights on Fridays and Sundays so I didnt have anything to worry about. Well this particular Sunday I did. The text message that I was going to send to the girl I worked with went to my boyfriend.

It all gets crazy from here. My boyfriend called me and was like “are you cheating on me?” I then proceeded to hang up the phone and not answer his calls. I then called the married man and he met up with me. Hence that night all of my belongings not including my furniture where in our drive-way. That is what started a new life for me. I had to go and stay with my parents but I wanted to work things out with my boyfriend but he was so mad at me for cheating on him that he wanted to do nothing with me. So I started seeing the married guy on a more serious basis.

Within the last three months things with the married guy have gotten quite serious to the point where he SAYS he is leaving his wife, which he had said from day one and he is doing everything for me. In the beginning we fought alot but the last 3 weeks ever since he caught me at my “boyfriends” house he has been so caring, loving, nice, and will do anything for me. However I have been trying to work things out with my boyfriend. I have been sneaking around the married guys back. It has gotten to the point where the married guy has caught me at my boyfriends house and has came to the door. We all know the ending to that…it didnt go over well. My question is what do I do? I love my boyfriend more than anything and want to be with him, but when I am with the married guy he makes everything so perfect? Who do I choose and how do I get rid of the married guy if I choose my boyfrienbd and he wont leave me alone. My boyfriend said that I only have until this Sunday to make my decision whether or not I am coming home. I need help…I think I am in love with two men!!

Sincerly,
Distraught
😕

[aznsstar]

good riddance! get rid of both of them. we all need someone in our lives. but a boyfriend who is no good and a married man who doesnt know what he wants. cause less trouble.

[ThinkingRight]

You seem to have some real emotional problems. A serial cheater, lying, breaking up another family, deceiving another person, and putting them at risk for disease — just for starters. Assuming that the married man has any redeeming qualities is questionable; clearly if you start a relationship cheating it will not change. The most important thing in society is acting responsibly to your children and partner, he sounds like a “roided out” loser. You should straighten yourself out first then worry about a relationship. I had a similar experience with a loser like you and you kind of women will not take any advice unless it aligns with what you want to hear. I should have put all of her crap out on the street too.

[April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

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