I think I may have messed up a date, advice?

[zubidoo]

So I’m a 23 year old guy and it’s been a month since my ex broke up with me. At this party Saturday I met this girl and drunkenly we went back to my place with my roommate and his girl he met there and at our place we sat down and watched TV. I had my arms around this girl and my hand on her leg and we talked and joked for a while. Confidence wasn’t an issue and she never pushed my hand or arm away. So we all go back to her place and hung out for a while just joking around (I hadn’t kissed her yet because I thought I heard her roommate mention her having a bf which may or may not be true since her facebook doesn’t mention her having one) till it was 7:30am and then me and my roommate said goodnight and left. So this is where I started to mess up.

I assumed from saturday night that she was into me on some level so I texted her on Sunday night asking if she wanted to meet up for lunch on Monday (we had texted Sunday just having conversation but I hadn’t asked her to hang out till the evening). She said sure and we had lunch together Monday morning. This was my first mistake – at the end of lunch, instead of saying “that was fun we should do this again sometime” I said “do you like ping pong? She said “I don’t know I’m not very good”. I said “I’m going to try and play with some people today if you want to come”. She said “I don’t really know how to play lol” and I said “it’s not too hard really I can probably teach you relatively quickly.” She then said “maybe, but I have a meeting in an hour and then I’m going to the gym with my roommate and then I’m probably hanging out with my friends later cuz its 4/20”. I said “alright cool well I’ll let you know when we decide to play” and she said “ok.”

My 2nd mistake was I sent her a text 3 hours later asking if she wanted to play ping pong or rock band without me having invited anyone else (although she didn’t know that necessarily) to which she replied “I’m in a meeting lol”. I say “lol not right now I mean later in the day.” That’s when she repeats what she said earlier about maybe because shes going to the gym and probably hanging out with friends later. It was probably a mistake to have texted her saying “want to play ping pong or rock band?” instead of saying “me and my friends are playing ping pong now if you want to come.”

Feeling like an idiot for messing up again I go back to my room and my roommate says she texted him asking if I was there and if I could get her “stuff” (it was a little strange that she hadn’t just asked me that and felt she had to go through my roommate). I won’t mention what she wanted but needless to say I then texted her and said “I’ll try to find some for ya but cant guarantee anything” to which she said “cool don’t worry about it though if you can’t find any”. A few texts later I say “I couldn’t find any, sorry” and she replies “that’s ok lol.”

My possible last mistake was, after she said “that’s ok lol” because I couldn’t get her the stuff I say “you ever tried hookah?” to which she still hasn’t replied (I sent that at 5pm and it’s now 11pm).

In your opinion did I mess up my chances with this girl at all by seemingly pushing too hard and trying to hang out too soon or am I overanalyzing this? It’s not my confidence that’s an issue when I’m hanging out with her it’s just that I might’ve came off as needy. What’s your advice? Should I wait a day or two then try and make more plans to hang out? Did I even do anything wrong?

Thanks for comments!

[tricia]

No you didn’t messed up your date although it leads there. Why? because you are just being true to yourself but sadly the girl didn’t enjoy your company. For some reason, the two of you have different interest and this is not a good start for a starting friendship or relationship. Think of a plan that the two of you will surely enjoy.

[April Masini]

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