[confused63]

I have been involved with a man now for several years and what I thought was to only be a one time thing has benn an ongoing thing for more than 6 years.

We still see each other on a weekly basis due to our schedules. Could there be something more between us?

[April Masini]

I’m not sure what you mean by “involved” with a man. Are you dating? Sleeping together? Just friends? ❓

Also, it would help to know how old you both are.

It seems that the answer to your very vague question is yes, of course there could be more between the two of you. The question I’d ask you is, What do you want?

[confused63]

We have been sleeping together all this time. He says he’s happy with what we have and at the same time says confused. What he’s confused about who knows. Possibly his feelings towards me? I know that in the past he has been hurt very deeply from the last relationship he had. As far as our ages go let’s just say we are both well over the age of 21.

[April Masini]

If you’re both over 21 years of age, and have been sleeping together for six years now with no other commitment, I doubt you’ve got a shot at anything else with this guy. No matter what he says, his actions are what you should look at, and they’re very clear.

I suspect you’re looking for a meaningful relationship that will lead to marriage and family, but this guy isn’t going to give you that. If he was going to, he would have already. Six years is a long time for you to waste with someone who only wants you for sex.

I hope you’ll move on, now, and realize there’s more to life out there than a guy who sleeps with you but doesn’t offer you a commitment.

Don’t be confused — this one’s pretty clear if you let yourself see it. 😕

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