You have a decision to make. Most people don’t change as adults, so you have to decide if you can move forward with things the way they are, or prepare yourself to move on. You have heard people use the expression “growing apart”, well that’s what’s happening here. You cannot go back to the way things used to be without someone having to give up on what they like about how things are now. She seems to be fine with how things are now and you aren’t. If you push hard on going back, she is just going to resent you. If you give up and accept her for the way things are now, you will resent her. My advice is to move on. This, from a man who is in a 14 year marriage and who is dealing with the issues of not leaving when I should have. All the signs were there and I CHOSE.. get that.. I CHOSE to ignore them. Now I am suffering the consequences and since children are involved I cannot just move on.
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