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Heello….and i need some help. I am in between two guys and idk which one is the one im supposed to pick… :'(
My ex and i dated about a year and i lost my virginity to him. i broke up with him because he started flirting with other girls, his life was all over the place and i felt like it would be best, if i let him get his life back on track…well. About a month passed and i was still completley in love with him, so i pretty much asked if he wanted to be with me again, and when he said no..i begged and begged, at that moment, he was my whole life. i felt like i wouldnt live without him. In the end, he still rejected me and told me tht he did not want to be with me anymore and tht i should move on. So i did. Three months later, i found the guy i always dreamt of, green eyes…blond hair..has his life on point, knows what he wants..takes me out all the time…buys me things…spoils me..and all tht good stuff… After Dating him for about a month, my ex comes back and tells me that he cant live with out me, im the woman he wants to have kids with…he loves me more than anything..and i just dont know what to say. that moment all the feelings i had surpressed about him just came out of no where and i got all these flashbacks of how happy we were and how i was so in love with him. and i told him, no i didnt want to be with him i had a bf now and i would always have him close to my heart as a friend and i told him to go ahead and move on. My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 months now..and i regret telling my ex to move on. In the end, i realize tht i really do love my ex..but he made me suffer so much because he told me that he didnt want to be with me anymore..it broke my heart. When im with my ex, i feel so complete, i lose myself in his kisses, his hugs, and when we make love its like everytime is the first time. so much love in the ambience, i feel like we’re connected. now when im with my current boyfriend, i know he is completly in love with me..he says im everything hes ever wanted and i know i love him too but i still feel like there’s something missing. I don’t feel like i love him as much as i love my ex. And i feel like the guy im supposed to be with is my current boyfriend..because HE lOVES ME… but the guy im in love with is my ex….so i dont know who to choose… my ex also now has a girlfriend, shes pretty much just a prop…he says he cares for her and loves her but tht when it comes to being between me and her, he will always love me more, but he also does not want to hurt her…because she is completly in love with him. So who should i be with…my ex…the guy tht has hurt me so much but i still love with all my heart….or my boyfriend…the guy that is in love with me and says he will never hurt me.

[April Masini]

Your ex is not the right guy for you, and if you think you can love someone who made you suffer, you need to re-examine the definition of mature love. The man you’re dating who makes you feel good and puts your best interests first, is Mr. Right, way more than any guy who rejected you, broke your heart, and says he wants you, but (oops!) has a girlfriend at the same time.

No contest. Stop contacting and accepting contact with your ex-boyfriend. He’s a drama machine. He wants you when you’re taken. He doesn’t want you when you’re available. He’s betraying his current girlfriend by telling you he wants you while dating her. Blech. 😕 Focus on your relationship with your current guy. He’s a good one. 🙂

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