Recently in the last year have been talking more eventually leading to outings that involved our 16 year old daughters. The first two and half years that I have known this man, I was never attracted to him. And then something in the last 6 months clicked and we became very close, including sharing intimate details of our personal lives. When we’re together we have this intense connection that is more than anything I have ever felt. He has had many girlfriends but they all turned out they just wanted to try and see what being with a man was like, but all left him for a woman. And I haven’t dated or been with anyone since I first got separated from my husband 14 years ago.
He sent me a message about 4 months ago stating that the girls really want us together and for me to think about us starting a relationship. The next day, he said that he was drinking and doesn’t remember but he didn’t deny what he had written. He planned two outings with our daughters which was a blast, including one night where he cooked for us and we had a great night. He is super shy and hasn’t made any moves. We recently went on a 10 hour trip to the Bay Area and there were many opportunities for him to make a move but her didn’t. He is always lending a hand to help me with stuff around the house that needs to be fixed. I’m always the one starting conversations via message, well about 90%.
Do you think he is really shy and just doesn’t want to mess up what we have going on so far? Is he even interested? Am I wasting my time?
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