[relationshipa1]

What should I do? I met this guy, we saw each other a few times and then he said we should stay friends. He is afraid of getting involved due to a previous relationship where he was really hurt and says that I deserve better than him as well. Thing is he is still in touch with me, we see each other and talk on the phone. Is he just afraid of getting hurt or am I wasting my time? I was kind of wondering if I should keep in touch in case he changes his mind or am I just making myself too available to him so he will never miss me?? I am so confused.

Thanks for any replies ; )

[April Masini]

If he says he wants to just be friends, take that seriously. You’re too valuable to waste your dating time and energy with someone who isn’t interested in you in that way. But I would cut off from him completely, [i]and gracefully[/i], because not only will that cutting off free up you and your time to find Mr. Right, as well as to be available to Mr. Right if he shows up, it will also help this other guy realize that he misses you and WANTS to date you — or that he’s truly not interested. By staying in touch with him after he’s said he just wants to be friends, you’re making it too easy for him to be confused, for you to be confused and for you to be unavailable to any great situation that may arise with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Wow!! What a quick response – Thank-you.

I work with this guy but will try and cut it off as much as possible as I can – need to balance this with maintaining some level of professionalism as well.

Why is it that the guys who like me are never the ones I like back??

UKgal

[April Masini]

Definitely balance your work face with your personal face when it comes to this colleague who acts interested, but says he isn’t. And remember — dating is a numbers game, so you have to get out there and date like a superstar ball player who’s batting average is reliant on being up to bat, and striking out enough times that when he hits that grand slam his batting record is an average not a single stroke of luck.

Stick with it, and date smart. You’ll hit that grand slam soon enough! 🙂

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