IS HE JUST LIKE ME BUT NOT INTERESTED?

[mae4ever]

I need some advice of what to do next..I just went out with this guy last night (feb.8,2010)We watched movie and it’s snowing. Since I don’t have a car yet, he needs to pick me up in the corner of my street.Because I don’t want my Aunt know about that I am seeing someone.Or else my dad will kill me.Though Im already 21, the environment i grew up was conservative. I must say the official date we had was when we watched movie,and that’s it, and because the weather was bad. The first two nights that we met was we just took a walk.
Now, I wondered. he already saw me using fone while with him.And even asked me if I like him or something.Because I was on the phone and being far away from him in the theater though we’re sitting right next to each other.He also told me that night that he wants to hold my hands but he’s scared that i might not let him. My question is why he is still not asking for my number?!Well, I’ve never see him with his fone so far but it’s impossible that he doesn’t have a phone.We just chat in YM and I don’t like that.Is he just like me but not interested?Because as far as I know when u are interested with someone , you will ask for her/his number. Ask for your family and everything.( he don’t ask me some questions like that!).But he told me he wanted to hang out with me more, being with me.And I said I wanted to be with u too.I don’t know if I’m still gonna spend time with him or not.I’m confused! 😕

And please, he is not gentleman!Since it was snowing, I told him that I’m gonna call the theater first.That he supposed to be doing that and since he’s the once who asked for a date!..because the movie starts at 6:40pm and he asked me to call the theater earlier.And I responded him like “if u want earlier you can call!”But..he paid OUR tickets and i was surprised because Im already in the window and about to give my card but then he suddenly appeared! 😀 . BUT again, I paid for our drinks.Cause I offered too.

So is he like me but not interested?! 😕 Will I still gonna spend time with him?!..

Thank you..If u need some info let me know..thank u so much.. 🙂

[April Masini]

[i]Why do you like him??[/i] 😕

I mean, you’ve already said he’s not a gentleman, he hasn’t asked for your phone number — in fact he may not even have a phone 😯 , and he is such a fraidy cat he tells you he’s scared to hold you hand!! Wow. This guy does NOT sound like a prize by any stretch of the imagination, and I have no idea what about him you like.

Don’t waste any more time wondering if he’s interested or not. Instead focus on your problems:

First of all, if you’re 21 years old, and living with your family, and they don’t want you to date, then either don’t date or else get a job and get your own place so you can live your own life. It’s not fair to your family or ultimately, to you or any man you get involved with to start out a relationship like this. If your family is kind enough to allow you to live with them even though you’re a legal adult, then you need to be respectful of their rules. If you don’t like their rules, then move out so you’re not disrespecting them so directly.

Second of all, don’t date men who don’t have a phone or who aren’t respectful of you (I think you called it gentlemanly in your post). And if you don’t like chatting on Yahoo Messenger because that’s all you do (sort of), then don’t participate. It’s really easy. Just don’t. Same goes with calling the theatre to see what time your movie plays — if you want him to do it and not you, then don’t YOU volunteer to do it and then feel bitter afterwards.

All of your disappointment in this guy comes from you getting involved with a guy who isn’t ready to be in a relationship. Choose more wisely.

I hope this helps.

[mae4ever]

That helped a lot!!!!..Thank you so muchhhhhhh.. 😀 😀 😀

And alright he finally gave me his number but it’s kinda weird that he didn’t ask for my number.
Here”s the story..Sorry it’s long. 😀
We are chatting. Then he said like this “Too bad, you’re busy.Wanna go watch hockey game in my friend’s house”( [b]I wondered he just said it but he didn’t invite me.Like tying to invite me I guess[/b]).And I said “I’m not.I skipped my church tonight”Then he asked me “hmmm..Do you wanna do something like watch movies but there’s no good movies in the theater” So I said “Can u be straight to the point?Co’z i was already thinking that u wanna watch movie in your house.Do u wanna watch movie in your house?”I asked. Then he said “If u feel comfy doing that” And I replied “I just wanna stay at home, Maybe some other time” Then he said “okay i’ll leave now and watch the game in my friend’s house.I said “just stay 🙁 “Then he replied this .”‘I’ll go then watch game.Here’s my #__. Text me if u want.Bye” Then I just said Take care..END.

I wondered.Did he just test me if i am an easy girl before he gave his number?But didn’t ask for my number which is weird..But then I did text him after 2 hours that he’s still not online.Then I just did ,I sent him a msg through YM and said “Hey!”” Just wanna say Hey .I did text u but no reply” Then he suddenly replied!. 😯 And he said he watched the game in his neighbors and didn’t took long long to go home.Which made me think again that he lied. 😕 Then we still talked. He asked me “So you’re gonna be busy everyday and now until I leave?”( [b]because he’s going to CA for work[/b])Then I replied”yes, maybe I don’t know”And he replied back like “Ok.Just let me know if you know..feel like I’m begging” Then I said” ok sure ‘ll let you know!lol:)”END

Because I am feeling of liking this guy but he confuses me.I don’t know if he just physically interested with me or what?!

Thank u again April! Thank u there to help me and open my mind!.. 😀

[April Masini]

Please re-read my original advice to you.

The more you tell me the more the question looms:[i] Why do you like him? [/i]

He’s not gentlemanly. He’s not treating you like a great girlfriend. He’s not chasing you to win a prize. Instead, he’s giving you his number. 😳 And not asking for yours — like you’re supposed to be the guy and make the dates. 🙁

This guy is not Mr. Right.

And when you ask me, Did he test me to see if I”m an easy girl? The answer is yes: And you are. You’re acting more like the booby prize that he gets for just showing up (and barely at that), not the great prize a man feels good about chasing and winning.

Any woman who would allow herself to date someone who treats her the way your guy is, is setting herself up for disappointment.

Read my advice, and buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. When you’re finished reading it, let me know what you think.

Good luck!

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