Is he just playing a game or is he serious?

Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #1930
    relationshipa1
    Keymaster

    [color=#000080]I’ve known my best friend for over six years, and I’ve liked him for five of them, and it slowly grew into love. Anyway, he went from friend to friend, completely skipping over me, but when his ex didn’t work out, I just kind of forced myself to move on, though it never actually worked.
    Now he has a new girlfriend, and he’s been with her for about a year and a half. Lately though, for about the past month, he’s been flirting with me, calling me babe, and saying he loves me. He has also pulled me into his lap and held me on the couch in the college lounge. I’ve tried to ignore it, but last weekend was my nineteenth birthday and he invited me over to his house to celebrate it. Of course I went.
    However, we, being us, got bored and decided to [childishly] hide under the bed from his girlfriend’s brother. He pulled me really close to him and rolled over to face my direction. He scooched closer and our breathing mingled. If one of us wanted to, we could have easily kissed the other.
    Anyway, I guess the point is, with all this flirting– which he does only when his girlfriend really isn’t around [there’s only been a few times she has been around that he’s done all this]– is he just toying with me, or is he being serious? And if he is, what should [i]I[/i] do?

    Sincerely,

    Complicated[/color]

    #12791
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    He’s toying with you — and it could become serious! I assume he’s your age, too, and at 19, it’s really normal to be playful in relationships. Nobody is really ready to get married (at least not usually), so relationships are about having fun, exploring romance and sexuality, and finding companionship and intimacy. It’s entirely possible that he wants you to be his girlfriend, finally, and is looking to segue from his now girlfriend, to you as his new girlfriend. If you want him as your boyfriend, then let him know by doing just what you are now, flirting, being great friends and letting him know you appreciate him and are receptive to a relationship.

    I hope that helps! 🙂

Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)
  • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.

Comments are closed.