Dear April,
I recently met this guy from an online dating app in person. He is an expat in my country and pretty new to everything. Our conversation went well. In fact, he offered me a second drink but we had already been in the bar for one hour and a half so I said thank you but maybe some other time – the bar was closing too btw.
He offered to drive me home but I only lived a block away so I said thank you but I’m glad to walk. He gave me a hug and we parted ways.
About an hour after we said bye, I sent him a text telling him that I hoped he got home safe and that I had a good time. He didn’t respond until the next day and it was something along the lines of “Good! It was nice to meet you and visit a town I hadn’t been to before”.
I didn’t respond to that since there wasn’t any question or incentive to keep the conversation going. However, I did text him a couple of days later that I had come across something from his country and I asked him if he knew the product. He said he didn’t but that he will look it up at home since he was on a work trip. Again, not much “movement” going on.
Today, about a week after the date, I texted him asking if he knew city X and if he had been there yet. My intention is to ask him to join me so I can show him around. I haven’t heard from him yet but he seems to have the habit to wait until the next day to respond. I also know he is still abroad right now.
Anyway, these signs are telling me he could be stringing me along. On the other side, he did seem very shy. After he asked me out on that app, I didn’t hear from him for 5 days so I decided to hit him up to see if the date was still on or not. His tone seemed nervous at the time but he did show up. I’m not sure what to make of this. Disinterest but too polite to tell me off? Stringing me along? Shy?
What should I do?
Thanks!
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