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So there’s this guy I’m head over heels for but he’s such a tease!
He acts all nice and sweet with me one night, but the next just completely ignores me.
He says he likes me a lot and would totally date me but doesn’t right now because he lives and hour and a half away from where i do and we only get to see each other during summer and Christmas break.
Lately he has been playing this game where he just gets jealous if i text other guys or talk to them on the phone, but then again, he doesn’t text me or call?
Some days he can be the sweetest guy to me but others he acts like he just doesn’t care.
Is he just trying to pull the whole “hard to get” thing or do you think he just really isn’t interested?
or is there any way i can figure out if he really is?
My instincts tell me to text him but i think i probably shouldn’t. it sucks because I’m terrible at this!
I don’t want to text him when i shouldn’t about stuff i shouldn’t.
Should i just wait to see if he texts me?
I don’t wanna risk it because he’s the type that thinks id a girl doesn’t text him there not interested, but then again, if a girl text him and text him again after he didn’t answer the first time, he see’s it as that she’s been needy or obsessive. I don’t want him to think that of me! I don’t know what to do =(

[April Masini]

Don’t text him. It’s really that simple.

If a guy likes you enough to date you, he’ll pursue you. If he texts you first, feel free to text him back — although maybe not right away.

I know you really like him, and you want him to pursue you, but if you start doing the pursuing — [i]especially[/i] after he’s told you he doesn’t want to date you because you live too far away from him — you’re going to become even more confused because he’ll flirt with you, but he won’t ask you out any more than he is now, and you’ll wind up writing me again with multiple confusions! 😮

A good rule of thumb for being successful in love is to never chase men if you’re the woman. If you follow this rule, you’ll alleviate confusion and at the same time, allow him to be the man who feels great about himself because he’s doing what men love to do — chase, pursue and win over women. If you take that opportunity away from him, you’re going to be more confused about whether or not he likes you, and you’re going to have taken away his opportunity to feel great about chasing you.

I hope that helps! 🙂

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