Is my roommate with my Ex?

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So I dated this guy for 2 and a half years and we just broke up not to long ago. We really loved each other and thought we would spend our lives together but we grew depended on one other and felt it was time to part to pu it short. The problem is that we have very intertwined lives like the same friends. I meet my best friend a year and a half ago and she meet my ex and i at the same time. It was her, myself, my boyfriend, and another close guy friend that did everything together. The four of us became very close and spent all of our time in a group and this is when my relationship with my boyfriend at the time began to fall apart, just because while hanging out as a group we were not really engaged in each others lives anymore. So now that things are over everything is great because I no longer have to be aware of someone else and I just want to focus on my life.

The problem is my best friend is now my roommate and she got very close to the both of us and now that we’ve broken up she’s kinda in the middle of us. And I feel jealous of her spending time with him even though i know they are best friends as well and i also know things aren’t like that between them. Because of both there odd personalities they seem like they would never be together, ever, I mean you could ask anyone that knows them and all of us. But i feel as of lately I’ve been having my doubts. Since it has only been a little over a month since we broke up I’m just thinking my mind is just messing with me and it would never be. But certain things have happened and I don’t know what to think or say or do.

Such as she was going back to her parents home for the weekend and said she left at 10am to beat the traffic, but another one of our mutual friends trying to look for my ex drove past his house and saw her car there at 2pm that day? Then She was in my home town over xmas break where my ex and I both live to see a family member in the hospital and it seems they hung out and she might have brought him along to the hospital? I’m not sure on that one but I never got a call from her saying that she was in the area. But I do know she was giving him a ride back that day to where we go to college so maybe its not that bad? Then she hung out with him the night we got back up to our apartment and the next day was new years and she said she would spend it with me since she was in over at his place the night before. I’m trying to distance my time spent with him and want our own space completely so I did not want to spend the holiday with him. But that day she said she felt the pressure of us both wanting to hangout with her on the holiday so she went home instead, I’ve also heard from some mutual friends that they felt there might have been sexual tension of some sort between them when they where hanging out with my ex and friend but I don’t know if I can trust there word on how well I know my ex and friend.

I understand she’s in the middle of us and she is literally both my ex’s and my best friend and the only one in the area both of us know and are very close with to hangout with over break before classes start. So I’m wondering what I should do? I have a weird feeling that something might be happening between them but at the same time i know both of them very well and feel that that could never happen and especially that they would never do that to me. But I’m very confused and don’t know what to do or what to think or say or do…

Any advice would be very helpful

[April Masini]

I’m not sure how old you all are, but your best friend isn’t acting like a best friend. There’s no way in the world that your best friend should be hanging out with your ex-boyfriend now, and if she is, she’s not really your best friend. 😳 That said…. it’s time for [i]you[/i] to change things in your life, since you really can’t (and shouldn’t try to) change your best friend’s behavior or your ex-boyfriend’s behavior.

The easy solution is for you to move out and get a new roommate. One who isn’t interested in your ex-boyfriend and isn’t hanging out with your ex-boyfriend. Sometimes you have to to reevaluate friendships and it doesn’t seem like this one with your roommate isn’t serving you any more. It’s a new year — time for a new roommate!

I hope that helps! Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1154528031[/url].

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