[HannahSto]

Hi. My name is Hannah, and I am 15 years old. I visited Finland this summer for a month to go to a week long summer camp so that I could get confirmation(Lutheran). I met a boy here and I have been Snapchatting him for a month and he also went to my camp. We have met 3 times as well outside the camp. It was discovered that we liked each other a lot, and we decided to attempt a long distance relationship. I have to return to America soon, and he will be staying in Finland. His dad works for Finnair, so they get cheap plane tickets, so maybe he could visit. And I will be returning to Finland next summer. Is this relationship worth attempting at all? Are we too young? Is this too weak of a start for this relationship to actually blossom into anything?

[April Masini]

It sounds like you’re very realistic about things. If you have a long distance relationship, at age 15, you have to understand that you won’t have the same bond as if you see each other more regularly in person, and that there are normal high school temptations and distractions on either end of the relationship that may cause miscommunication and disappointment. Also, when you do see each other, there may be pressure on the visits that you wouldn’t have if you were able to see each other more freely and more often. Long distance relationships are tough at any age. However…. you may still find that the long distance relationship creates a special bond that is valuable to both of you. My advice is to weigh this advice against what you know about yourself and this guy and decide what works best for you. Weigh possible regret over not trying over possible heartache over it not working — against the possibility that you may create something special that has no heartache.

I hope that helps.

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