So I have a problem with jealousy. I have asked for advice from my friends and family, and his friends. I get the same answer every time. “You have to trust him to get over jealousy.” At this point I am willing to admit that this piece of advice is true. Here’s my problem:
Yes, I could trust my boyfriend a little more. The problem with that is that we are still a bit new (about 4 months only), but I am head over heals for him. I think that with time, I will trust him the way I want to. The thing that I am most worried about is the feeling i get toward other females. I honestly don’t think that is is cheating on me, nor do I think that he will in the future. I just know that my boyfriend is a nice person, and when I think about another female mistaking his niceness for more than just that, I get extremely jealous. I don’t like the idea of another female even THINKING that she could have a chance with him or that he wants her in any way. I know that if he realized that a female were thinking that, he would back off immediately, but I know him to think that females are “just being nice”.
On a side note, I think that it is critical that you know that I have no reason not to trust him. He has been nothing but good to me. From the day we first hung out we have literally been inseparable, other than when we were forced to be (we are in college, so examples of this are classes, school trips, etc.). Right now we are being forced apart because he is doing an internship 13 hours away. He has already bought my plane tickets and I will be going visit for a week this month. This separation is killing us, but we are making it through. I’m not scared of the separation coming between us, I’m scared of myself coming between us.
I’ve had plenty of people tell me that there will always be girls who will try to flirt with him or try to get with him, but as long as I know that he will not push it any further, I should just not let it bother me. I just don’t know how to not let it bother me.
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