Just not sure

[Mike73]

We dated for 8 months and I was still dealing with divorce issues. I got confused on if I wanted to try to fix my marriage or not. I told her I needed time to clear my head and figure out what I wanted so we split up. We kept in touch and about 2 months after our break up she told me that she missed me and that if I was interested that once I got myself back on my feet that we could try to get back together. My divorce is filed and and we talk every day and maybe once a week we see each other but she is not ready to take that step yet. She keeps me informed about her kids and other things. I still love her and just want to know if you think i still have a chance with her? I’m not good at reading into women’s signs. She Huss told me that I’ve been more of a dad to her kids than anyone else has and every time I leave her place she gives me a hug. She always texts me back and we have a lot of fun doing things with her kids. She even gave me Christmas ideas for the kids and is making my mom something too I don’t want to push her but I would like to have her back in my life.

[April Masini]

I think you should give it a shot. But the way back into her heart is through romance, not just being a stand up guy to her kids. Use the holidays to rev up the romance. Send her flowers and poems. Invite her to holiday parties, and focus on the relationship you have with just her — not as much with her family. She needs time to make sure she’s not the rebound relationship you’re going to have post-divorce, so be patient. But don’t back off. I think it’s great that you took care of business and filed for divorce. But ending your marriage is a process and starting up this relationship with her is one, as well. Stick with it. 😉 She’s going to be looking for signs that you’re not interested in rekindling romance with your wife and that you’re really moving forward. When the divorce is granted, invite her to celebrate this new part of your life with you. In fact, buy a bottle of champagne just for that purpose, put it in the refrigerator, and let her know that when the divorce comes through you want to drink it with her. 😎

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