Boyfriend of 1,5 years works is merchant marine officer. We live 5 hours apart, but for the last 7 months he was away on ship. Before he left we would see meet every other weekend, everything was great. He said he loved me very much and asked me to wait for him.
When he was away, his aunt suddenly died and was devastated. Told him I would be there for him and we had fb conversations when he was on the ship. He said that when he would return he would have a lot of things to do, such as things for work, to comfort his mother and especially rest, he got very tired from work.
3 weeks ago he send me a message which was normal, saying he can’t wait to get back as he was extremely tired and then…nothing. I sent him messages for 2 weeks, got no response, thought there was some problem with the internet on the ship smthing usual.
Now realised he returned home a week ago and didn’t tell me, so I texted 3 days ago telling I would prefer he told me he was back and needed some time to put things together, than to ignore me and leave me wondering. I also said I’m sure he would be ok in a couple of days and he could call me when he wanted.
Didn’t hear from him. It’s been 3 days. I am understanding about this, it’s difficult to be in a ship for 7 months and then deal with the “outside” world, but I cannot get why couldn’t he send me a message explaining that or telling me he wants to break up?
I decided to let him be for a week and then give him a call. Should I not contact him at all? I love him very much and I believe he does too, but maybe is not able to handle everything right now?
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