Libra man – online dating

[SweetGirl28]

Dear April,

I have been talking to a Libra man that I have met online for almost 4 months now. Unfortunately, we haven’t been able to meet in person yet but he keeps calling/texting/talking to me on the webcam. Our conversations can go on for hours and are always fun and deep at the same time. He deleted his profile on the dating website shortly after we started talking. Sometimes he doesn’t text me for 2-3 days and then he suddenly appears again. Our latest messages and webcam conversations have been quite flirty (not sexual in any way though) and I am not sure what to do with this. He doesn’t live very far but we are both on very busy schedules so meeting in person is most likely not going to happen anywhere soon although he is making vague plans in case I were to visit him.

My question is: what do I make of this? Is he interested in me? I must admit that I have grown to like him in a special way but I am not sure if this is merely internet dating bliss or a real crush. What do I do about this situation? I heard Libras can be quite indecisive and I have been quite reserved with him up to now. Is he considering me as an option?

Thanks!

[April Masini]

I’m not an astrologer, so I can’t comment on any horoscope issues, but I can tell you about your relationship. 😉 If you meet someone online, and he doesn’t ask you out on an in person date in three months, it’s time for you to move on. If you don’t, you’re going to invest time in someone who isn’t serious about a relationship. 😉

[quote]what do I make of this? Is he interested in me? [/quote]

He likes having you around so he’s not lonely, and he can consider you an option. He’s probably got other “options” in other women he’s met online, too. So, yes, he’s interested in you — but only in this manner. If he was interested in dating you, he would have already. 😉 Some people use the internet to keep from facing real life fears or to stave off loneliness. The internet is a great tool to meet people and to supplement a relationship, but it’s not a place where you should conduct your ENTIRE relationship. 😉

[quote]I must admit that I have grown to like him in a special way but I am not sure if this is merely internet dating bliss or a real crush. What do I do about this situation? I heard Libras can be quite indecisive and I have been quite reserved with him up to now. Is he considering me as an option?[/quote]

This is internet dating bliss — and it may be a real crush — but it’s not a real life dating situation, and that’s what you need to ward against. My advice is to not put all your eggs in one basket, and start spending more of your time with men who are interested in a real life relationship, not just an internet situation.

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[SweetGirl28]

(This is about a different guy than my former message.)

I met this guy a couple of months ago very briefly and since we live a couple of hours away from each other, we kept in touch through text messaging and video chats. Although I wasn’t interested in anything else but a friend I could talk to from time to time, he seemed to like me a lot as time progressed. He would send me expensive gifts, send me text messages asking how my day was going and telling me how pretty I am, etc

A couple of days ago, he came over and we hung out. I ended up spending the night with him, but since he seemed so eager to have sex with me, I tried to resist him. The day after we had a lot of fun together and he brought up the topic of a serious relationship. I said I was open to that and he invited me for another date a couple of days later. I want to mention that throughout our time together he kept telling me how hot I was which I found to be inappropriate. It made me think he might be after sex only but, if that is the case, I don’t understand why he would shower me with expensive gifts and clothing.

However, since I hadn’t heard from him in a couple of days, I decided to text him four days after our date asking if he had time to call me but he said he didn’t and that he would call me the next day which he didn’t. This has happened quite a few times before so I didn’t think much of it.

The day on which we were supposed to go out on a date passed without him contacting me. It seems like he went completely cold on me and – as many women probably would – I keep wondering what I might have done wrong to scare him away. After all, I tried to keep an open mind during our whole friendship/relationship and he was the one bringing up the serious topics. I expressed to him that I am not looking for a fling, but that I want to take things as they come and not force anything on anyone. He said he was ok with that and that he wanted to try that with me one day at a time.

This whole situation is confusing me. Any advice? I would like to hear what outsiders think of this. Thanks.

[April Masini]

Wow. First of all, buy and read Think & Date Like A Man, immediately! Here’s the link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. This book is going to help you a lot.

Basically, you made a couple of big mistakes:

1. If you’re looking for a friend — don’t find one on a dating website or with a guy who lives a couple hours away from you. Instead, look for a woman. Men and women can’t be friends. This is why. One person always wants something different at some point, and eventually there is confusion at best and hurt feelings at worst.

2. Decide what YOU want and then go for it. If you’re just looking for fun, then be clear about that. If you’re looking for a committed relationship, then be clear about that. But pick something! 😉

3. Never sleep with a guy on the first date and expect him to stick around. Men have sex because they can. You’re willing, he’s ready, that’s what happened. And if you’re looking for a committed relationship, understand that most men really don’t respect women that sleep with them on the first date — you’ll read more about this in Think & Date Like A Man.

As for being confused, don’t be: He’s not interested in you. Just sex where he can get it, and he’s trolling the internet for other women who are willing. Move on, and be clear about what you’re doing and what you want. 😉

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