Long Distance Relationship?

[SweetGirl28]

So, I met this great guy at a summer camp about 2 weeks before I was moving to a different country to study. I noticed him immediately, but wasn’t planning on talking to him since I was leaving soon anyway.

He approached me and we talked for several nights, having a great time together.

After the camp, I had one more week left before my departure and he wanted to see me, so we met up in his hometown. That was the first time we kissed.

I brought up the emotions and relationship topic since I wanted to make sure if he was able to wait for my return or if he was enough interested to at least talk to me during my stay abroad. He said we didn’t know each other enough for such a commitment and that he didn’t want to expect from me to commit to him and vice versa.

At first I was devastated and showed that clearly to him. Nevertheless, I slept in his bed, but refused to have sex with him because I didn’t want it to turn into a one-night-stand.

We had a great night together and the goodbye was quite painful.

Now, I am abroad and I miss him a lot. I managed to talk to him since my arrival, but the conversation was a little awkward. He didn’t say much and was distracted by checking his emails, because he was about to leave for work.

I know for a fact that he is a busy person, but I don’t want to be the one having to initiate contact with him all the time. On the other hand, I don’t want to go cold either, because I am afraid he might forget about me.

I will be back in about 4 months from now and I am confused about this guy. We really had a strong connection from the beginning, as if we were soulmates in a way. I really don’t know what to do now.

Any advice is appreciated!

[April Masini]

I don’t think he’s interested in a relationship with you even though you like/d each other and had a nice time together for a short time while you were in the same country. If he contacts you, then you’ll know he’s interested, but if he doesn’t, you shouldn’t.

My advice is to accept the relationship for what it was — a very short mini-romance at the end of the summer that’s over now.

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[Anonymous]

Depends what sort of person you are too For example me, my bf is my best friend so will always wanna spend a lot of time with him, however if your the sort of person who likes to have their own time and space etc then a long distance one would defo suit

[April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

[SweetGirl28]

Dear April,

I recently met this guy from an online dating app in person. He is an expat in my country and pretty new to everything. Our conversation went well. In fact, he offered me a second drink but we had already been in the bar for one hour and a half so I said thank you but maybe some other time – the bar was closing too btw.

He offered to drive me home but I only lived a block away so I said thank you but I’m glad to walk. He gave me a hug and we parted ways.

About an hour after we said bye, I sent him a text telling him that I hoped he got home safe and that I had a good time. He didn’t respond until the next day and it was something along the lines of “Good! It was nice to meet you and visit a town I hadn’t been to before”.

I didn’t respond to that since there wasn’t any question or incentive to keep the conversation going. However, I did text him a couple of days later that I had come across something from his country and I asked him if he knew the product. He said he didn’t but that he will look it up at home since he was on a work trip. Again, not much “movement” going on.

Today, about a week after the date, I texted him asking if he knew city X and if he had been there yet. My intention is to ask him to join me so I can show him around. I haven’t heard from him yet but he seems to have the habit to wait until the next day to respond. I also know he is still abroad right now.

Anyway, these signs are telling me he could be stringing me along. On the other side, he did seem very shy. After he asked me out on that app, I didn’t hear from him for 5 days so I decided to hit him up to see if the date was still on or not. His tone seemed nervous at the time but he did show up. I’m not sure what to make of this. Disinterest but too polite to tell me off? Stringing me along? Shy?

What should I do?

Thanks!

P.S.: This is a different guy than the one I posted about before.

[SweetGirl28]

Also, I’m 28 and he is 30.

[April Masini]

Please repost this as a “reply” to the string of posts you’ve already started on this website here: [url]https://relationshipadviceforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=224618&p=245050#p245050.[/url]

It’s much easier for me to give you better advice when I can see all your questions and my answers in one place. I’ll answer your new questions as soon as you repost them! 😀

[SweetGirl28]

I thought I just did?

[April Masini]

It’s very confusing when you start multiple strings of posts. I’ll try to figure out which one of your strings of posts we should use. For future, please keep all your posts on one string. It’s much easier for me, and anyone reading or offering advice to see your posts in one place. 🙂

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