[Loglyon25]

I am 25yrs old. My partner of ten years is 24. I have been the bread winner for most of our relationship. In the last 8months I have been unable to provide financially due to a motorcycle accident. We have been through a lot lately including homeless, she developed carpal tunnel syndrome from her office job and we had nowhere to live. About a week ago we had such a nasty argument and she said she was planning on how to kill me so I left and stayed at a mates place for the week. She contacted me on the next weekend asking me to come home and talk and help her move her stuff with my truck as she had gotten a new place. When we arrived at the place she told me that she had taken a job at a brothel and had five clients on her first night. I have no idea what to think or who she is anymore. I feel like she lied to me for 10 years about her sexual morals and identity. She loves her new job and gets confidence and attention and autonomy from it, which I respect. I just don’t know how to be her partner anymore. She doesn’t need me for anything. I’m so heartbroken.

[April Masini]

I can understand how you’ve become heartbroken — and I’m very sorry. 🙁 It sounds like she is not much like the person you fell in love with over a decade ago. 😕 I don’t think there is a place for you in her life anymore, and since you were together for 10 years, from the time you were teenagers to now, that’s got to be very difficult for you. She’s chosen a way of life that isn’t compatible with yours and the best thing you can do is grieve the end of the relationship and move on. I imagine that’s awful for you to hear, but I think you’ll come to agree that she’s not someone who wants to be with you, is capable of being with you — or who you want to be with anymore. If you mourn the relationship, it’s the past not the present you’re mourning. As hard as this may be to believe, you’ll find love again — elsewhere. 😉

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