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    confused
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    I’m so confused. I met this guy online. We dated 3 weeks and had this incredible connection from the first moment we spoke on the phone. He pursued me, called me, I saw a lot of him. He told me in week 1 that i wasn’t opening up and that i wasn’t serious about a relationship. So i opened up and let him in. We had sex on the 3rd date (3rd day of meeting), then he kept saying he wanted to wait every time we saw each other, but we never did. Then, he had his kids for 2 straight weeks. HE called me everyday at work, he called me every night when i was already asleep. He would text me constantly. IF he didn’t get me on my cell he tried my home phone. Then something happened. HE said he just wanted to be friends via text message. WHen i called him he said that i was misinterpreting it. He would say he still wanted to date. Then a couple of days later he called me at 1:30am all honey, sweetie, sexy. He called to tell me he was going on vacation out of the country and wouldn’t be in touch with me for about a week. I was starting to fall hard for this guy. He would talk about marriage, kids when we would have them, where we were going to live. He has me thoroughly confused about what he wants. THe connection is there for both of us and I’ve never experienced this before. He told me he wants me to fall in love with him then he pulls all this. Please help! IS he a lost cause? Or should i trust my gut, heart and instincts and just wait this out.

    #12942
    Anonymous
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    I see what you mean. I would say he isn’t a lost cause.
    If you both feel such a strong connection together, just wait it out and use your instincts.
    Maybe he hasn’t felt this way for a girl before either and doesn’t know how to react to this feeling
    which causes him to act that way. Just hang in there and trust your gut on him to see what is
    really going on. Ask him about it. See what he is truly feeling. I wish you the best of luck.

    #12997
    April Masini
    Keymaster

    I agree with Athingofbeauty that this is not a lost cause — but to keep it that way you need to cool it. You’re reading way too much into a three week relationship. You need to use your brain and not get swept away just because he says or acts a certain way. He’s going to do what he’s going to do — and YOU, my dear, have to do whatever it is you’re going to do. Getting sucked into an emotional tornado is not advisable.

    Regardless of what he says, you two met online, and chances are he’s met other women online, too. In fact, he may be dating them, too. It’s not out of line or wrong this soon in a relationship when you are both still getting to know each other.

    Get to know him more, and stay focused on who Mr. Right is for you — and what YOU want in a relationship. Date smart, and if you haven’t already, reread my book, Think & Date Like A Man. You can download it here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s a great read while you’re working out a relationship with someone and don’t want to blow it!

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