Hi April,
I just turned 40 and have been married for about 12 years. I have started to notice a change in what arouse me in the last few months, for some reason, I need a lot more stimulation to get aroused and in the mood to have sex with my wife. By stimulation, I mean props and things that turns me on. For me that’s lingerie, makeup, perfume etc… I have a really tough time getting in the mood if my wife is wearing sweatpants, baggy clothes or anything that it is not sexy. My wife has a hard time understanding this, she thinks sex should be spontaneous and shouldn’t require work! What should I do!?