My Boyfriend and other woman…

[needselp123]

My Boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, we are very close with eachother but have had some problems in the past. Recently i have been talking with one of our mutual friends about some suggestive pictures he has been getting from other girls (mind you we are in an exclusive relatinship) he has also been saying to other girls he is in an “open” relationship and it is okay if he gets pictures and talks with them. I am not the jealous type but when i heard that it pissed me off. I confronted him about it and he told me that the girls talk to him and he has no control what they send him. Hopeing i could trust him i believed what he said but i still gave him a hard time about it. It hurts me to know the truth but at the same time am i being a crazy girlfriend? Or should i just let it all go? Before i say anything else this isn’t the first time hes done this either.

[tricia]

To the fact that he said that his into an open relationship, for me this is enough to prove that his still entertaining other girls. Yes, his right that he has no control with that matter but he has the control on not entertaining them

[April Masini]

When he claims he has no responsibility when the other women send him naked pictures and talk to him, it’s just not true. There are plenty of ways to say no, and I am sure he knows them all. It’s just easier for him to tell you he has no control over the other women than to admit to you that he doesn’t want to say no to them. It [i]can[/i] also be his passive aggressive way of his telling you he wants his cake and to eat it, too.

But, this may also be happening because he’s not getting enough spice in his relationship with you. One possible solution to the problem, [i]if[/i] you’re both adults and not teenagers, [i]and if[/i] this is happening just because he likes looking at naked women (because remember, men are usually more visually oriented than women), is to give him something to look at in yourself! You can get creative and have a lot of fun with this, and if he has you to look at, that may very well be all he needs, and do the trick.

If he still wants to look at other naked women even when he has [i]your[/i] best naked self in creative ways (check out my book Romantic Date Ideas for tips and advice here — you can click on the Dating Advice Books link above to get it for just $15!), understand that many successful relationships and marriages work because women realize that their men can be loyal and monogamous, but they like to look at naked women. If you can be okay with him looking at Playboy or other anonymous naked women, and you can still feel like he’s all yours and appreciative of you, you may have solved the problem that way, too.

Remember — men like to feel good about themselves, and one way for him to feel good about himself is to feel like he’s won a prize. These other women are making him feel like they are the prize. You can give him the biggest prize of all, by making him understand by showing him (not telling him) that [u]you[/u] are the biggest prize of all. If the problem is that he doesn’t feel great about himself dating you, and is looking for other ways to feel like he’s getting a catch elsewhere, then you can work on making yourself the big prize. Check out my book, Think & Date Like A Man for more on this. You can click on the link above under Dating Advice Books, and you’ll see how you can order it. It [i]will[/i] help you.

If that doesn’t work, and he really does want an open relationship and if he’s the one telling other women he’s in an open relationship as a sort of invitation to them, then unless you move on, you’re constantly going to be upset and angry and it’s going to get worse and worse. So find out where he is in terms of what he really wants right now in a relationship with you. If your boyfriend is interested in building relationships with these real life women who send him naked pictures of themselves, then he may be wanting to move on from you or just not be monogamous with you.

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