[gizmo1]

ive been with my man 4 mths. lately he’s been playing mind games with me by saying I did something wrong when i didn’t do anything. then he’ll act like he doesn’t know what i’m talking about.
he even sent me a text a few weeks ago asking me what he has to do for me to break up with him. i called him twice he wouldn’t answer then i had to beg in a text for him to pick up. when he did he said what are you talking about cuz i said you don’t want to see me anymore?
i’m always the one who has to call him or text him. i have to ask him to hang out. he used to call me every two days if i didn’t call him now it’s been three and he hasn’t called or even texted me a hi. he used to answer the phone when i called or return it if he missed a call, not anymore.
He used to always ask for his kiss when he’s come to see me, now I have to ask him to kiss me and he doesn’t want to. He used to want to hold me alot now I have to ask him to do that also and he says his arms hurt from working out. I mae him wait 3 and a half months for sex and we had sex finally a week ago then the last time I saw him I didn’t feel like it because he said all these crapy things to me and then expected me to be in the mood to have sex with him. When I saw him at work he saw me going up the stairs above him and started walking slow so he wouldn’t have to deal with me. I approached him saturday and he told me that i’m scared to have sex w him and when i’m not scared anymore give him a hollar. that’s how you talk to just some girl not your girlfriend that you say you care about and can’t live without.
I call him too much and text him too much.
He doesn’t even want to kiss me or hold me anymore he said he doesn’t like kissing he only did it cuz I like it.
He used to say he loves my kisses.
how could someone turn around and be a different person and just not miss you or care about you at all?

[April Masini]

Okay, if you’ve read my book Think & Date Like A Man or any of my columns on this topic you already know what I’m going to tell you. If you haven’t read my book — you really need to!

Now, you’re not going to like my advice, but you asked for it, so I’m going to tell you the truth.

This man’s behavior is (and has been) telling you all you need to know…. Be that in his pursuit of you (or lack thereof), his affection towards you (or lack thereof), or his desire to do things with and for you (or lack thereof).

You have been aggressively pursing this man, he has not been pursing you. You said, “I’m always the one who has to call him or text him. I have to ask him to hang out.”

As harsh as this is going to sound, what else do you need to know? If he was interested in a relationship with you — he would be pursuing you… he’s not.

Further, now he’s asking you “what he has to do for me to break up with him.” In other words, what does he have to do to make you show some self respect and stop chasing him.

And what do you do? You “beg him in a text for him to pick up”. Frankly, you look desperate and pathetic. Your behavior is the polar opposite of everything it needs to be to interest a man in a relationship.

What should you do? Simple. STOP!

Stop calling him, stop texting him — stop everything — IMMEDIATELY.

If he is interested in a relationship with you he will come after you and he will ask you on a date. If he doesn’t, he was never interested in the first place.

I find so many women want to make excuses for why a man doesn’t email, doesn’t call, doesn’t pursue them, etc. when the answer is very simple. He’s doesn’t do it because he’s not interested enough to do so. If he was — Trust Me — he would.

I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings, but I honestly believe it’s what you need to hear.

If you don’t start acting like a women with some self respect, you will never be treated with respect. Wake up!

I strongly recommend that you read my book, Think & Date Like A Man — read it, and then adjust your thinking and your behavior accordingly…

I wish you all the best.

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