You’re right to wonder if you’re the rebound girlfriend, but the way to figure this out is to take it slowly. You don’t sound ready to rush into marriage, and that’s good. If you two date for a year, you should have a better idea at that time about what you want from your boyfriend — and yourself. If you’re not ready to get married, then don’t. You don’t have to go along with his schedule. You have your own ability to say yes or no!
However, what you have to understand is that some men are just ready to marry when they’re ready to marry. This works both ways. Your boyfriend is on the younger side of this behavior, wanting to marry by age 25. Some men at age 40 still aren’t ready, and their girlfriends of five years are wondering when their guy will pop the question.
When I advise women who want to marry how to choose a guy, I always tell them that there are certain signs that show a man is ready to marry. One of them is that he’ll start acting like he’s part of a married couple. He’ll want to double date with other couples, and his friends will be married guys, not so much single guys. He’ll bring you around to meet his family and friends. He’ll be in a certain point in his career where he’ll be able to get married without being distracted by job and money issues that plague people who are not as settled.
If your guy seems like he fits the criterion of a man who is ready to marry, socially, emotionally and career and financially, then you may just have a marrying type on your hands! 🙂 Then, the question is, do you want to be his wife?
If he’s dated you for a year or more, I don’t think you have to worry so much about being the rebound girl.
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